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@MaNaAk I know what you mean. It's just over five months since dad died and it is like it is yesterday to me. Nothing has changed except dad is not here anymore. My purpose has gone and I do a lot of nothing. I suppose if life was normal we could do other things but there is only so much cleaning and tidying we can do.Thankyou, you two finding my own records of keeping track of dad's sugar levels was a help. We carers have a lot of extra memories.
I know that my daughter misses her Dad every day just like you do. We talk about him often which comforts us both. I can finally go over to see her and her family this weekend although I am not feeling as robust as I did a couple of months ago. It may galvanise me because with all this lockdown I feel as if I am going through the motions. The coincidences between our two boys continue because my husband loved grandfather clocks, He used to wind it up every week like you have to do, and it was when he could no longer do that that I knew things were bad. Such small things which you forget until your memory is jogged and I still have one ticking away here, very soothing.@MaNaAk I know what you mean. It's just over five months since dad died and it is like it is yesterday to me. Nothing has changed except dad is not here anymore. My purpose has gone and I do a lot of nothing. I suppose if life was normal we could do other things but there is only so much cleaning and tidying we can do.
Like you I am clearing things out, most of the furniture has gone and smaller things are starting to go to charity shops but I have the bulk of the memories in my house now. I have a small suitcase of photo's to go through and I know I won't get rid of any of them. I have all sorts of bits of paper that dad had written. I have dad's log of his ocean adventures (a real piece of treasure) and some very old postcards that he sent to his sister who was very young at the time (I don't know why he had them) which I will take to her as soon as it is possible.
I feel like no-one has really noticed that he has gone although he had one old friend who is still alive and I must ring him again soon because he was very upset at the funeral and he always used to visit dad often.
I have his clock on the wall in the dining room which I have to keep winding up every week and the ticking is the same as when it was at dads house. I will never part with it.
Carry on with the sorting @MaNaAk but do it in your own time and if you find yourself shedding some tears it just means that your dad 'was a good un' as my dad would say.