when do you stop trying to make them think things are not too bad

Discussion in 'ARCHIVE FORUM: Support discussions' started by bel, Nov 21, 2006.

  1. bel

    bel Registered User

    Apr 26, 2006
    757
    coventry
    I know it is here but i cant except it myself
    i cant treat my hubby like a child even though he acts like one
    every thing he touches goes wrong but to take it all away
    love bel x
     
  2. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,869
    Kent
    Dear Bel, Oh how I feel for you. I know exactly what you mean. I try to overlook or cover up the mistakes whenever possible. I`m treading on eggshells trying not to let him realize how bad he is.

    But it`s impossible to cover up everything and sometimes he knows he`s got it wrong and sometimes he doesn`t. He knows he has lapses or absences and has no memory of what`s happened. Then he says to me `Did I harm anyone?` He thinks his `Mental Illness` will cause him to be violent and he`s frightened.
     
  3. mel

    mel Registered User

    Apr 30, 2006
    1,656
    Sheffield
    Hi Bel
    It's hard isn't it? I'm in a better position where mum truly believes she washes herself,dresses herself,cooks,cleans and irons.........it has been tough though as bit by bit I've taken these things away from her.....for her own safety..
    love xx
     
  4. bel

    bel Registered User

    Apr 26, 2006
    757
    coventry
    knew it was the right thing to do

    you are all right
    and i thank you big time Connie i do the same hold hands and talk to him include him reasure him we have always been very touchy fealy sitting watching tv we hold hands going shopping what ever our children have always said there friends cant beleive how close we are after all these years it is not hard to do we have always done it but i do find Connie it helps reasure my hubby so i can see how it would be a comfort to lional
    somthing that cheered me at the end of the day made me think my old bossy boots is still there somewhere i have an ulcer as well as ---wont go there
    i forgot to order new script so was feeling un well tonight went up for wash hubby no where to be seen worried then he came in with tablets from chemist down the road it did not matter that they were wrong
    it was for 5 mins my bossy boots back again i have a flu teddy years ago he went to chemist for lem sip when i had flue came back with teddy still got it --always to be flue bear feel for you all and sending love
    bel xxxx
     

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