Sorry but this is just a vent - no need to reply as I know a lot of us are in the same boat on choppy seas and in the fog!!!
I find it increasingly difficult to accept this is now my life. My husband has still not being diagnosed but its suspected Lewy Body Dementia. Where have we as a couple gone? Although there are delusions and hallucinations I'd thought there were times of clarity but now I'm not so sure. All the forgetting where things are is getting quite extreme and hours are spent trying to find things that should have not moved. Not remembering item that were bought by him and were personal to him just another indication of fading memory. Yesterday I had a bit of a melt down and was a bit mean to him - I asked him what made us a couple what was it about us that was special - it took a long time for a reply but finally he said he could not think of anything.
We've been together for over 30 years and its like living with a stranger. Reflecting back I think there were signs that this started a few years ago - maybe after he had a knee replacement as he suffered from some delirium then. You think you are growing apart and that they don't care for you as much as they did. However now I realise it was not a conscious decision its not growing apart but fading apart. If occasionally there was a glimmer of him it would help!
I find it increasingly difficult to accept this is now my life. My husband has still not being diagnosed but its suspected Lewy Body Dementia. Where have we as a couple gone? Although there are delusions and hallucinations I'd thought there were times of clarity but now I'm not so sure. All the forgetting where things are is getting quite extreme and hours are spent trying to find things that should have not moved. Not remembering item that were bought by him and were personal to him just another indication of fading memory. Yesterday I had a bit of a melt down and was a bit mean to him - I asked him what made us a couple what was it about us that was special - it took a long time for a reply but finally he said he could not think of anything.
We've been together for over 30 years and its like living with a stranger. Reflecting back I think there were signs that this started a few years ago - maybe after he had a knee replacement as he suffered from some delirium then. You think you are growing apart and that they don't care for you as much as they did. However now I realise it was not a conscious decision its not growing apart but fading apart. If occasionally there was a glimmer of him it would help!