I went to see my mum as usual today and had the normal chat with the carer who opens the security door.
I see mum usually two/three times a week and am aware she is getting progressively worse but now she is settled it occurred to me that she is now closer to the carers than me and although that is great as she is happy and trusts the girls, she is growing further away.
Its sad for me but I have to admit to being a bit relieved knowing that this year the holiday won't be fraught and I leave her in good hands.
But how often do I say thank you yes I know its a paid job but would I want to do it. NO. So today I made it clear just how much I think they do which is not just caring or feeding and washing etc but in chatting, amusing, playing and making sure that friends are made and it is the home of the cared for, not a holding place whilst waiting for God.
How many of us have positive experience of care homes which is never shouted about, its always seems like bad experiences get the publicity not good.
Today a bit of cake and tea for everyone, a good day despite the fact mum did not recognise my son who got engaged. It hurt a bit but as her mind takes her beyond me at least I'm sure that she is surrounded by loving carers.
I see mum usually two/three times a week and am aware she is getting progressively worse but now she is settled it occurred to me that she is now closer to the carers than me and although that is great as she is happy and trusts the girls, she is growing further away.
Its sad for me but I have to admit to being a bit relieved knowing that this year the holiday won't be fraught and I leave her in good hands.
But how often do I say thank you yes I know its a paid job but would I want to do it. NO. So today I made it clear just how much I think they do which is not just caring or feeding and washing etc but in chatting, amusing, playing and making sure that friends are made and it is the home of the cared for, not a holding place whilst waiting for God.
How many of us have positive experience of care homes which is never shouted about, its always seems like bad experiences get the publicity not good.
Today a bit of cake and tea for everyone, a good day despite the fact mum did not recognise my son who got engaged. It hurt a bit but as her mind takes her beyond me at least I'm sure that she is surrounded by loving carers.