My highlight was last week when my grand daughter aged 9 rang to tell me she had passed her first music exam.
I said now you can play at the Albert Hall,when do you take the next exam?.
She replied"Oh I am not taking any more exams I don't like the teacher"!
I'm off on holiday on Saturday safe in the knowledge that Mum is being well looked after in her care home. This will be my first holiday alone with my husband and son, Mum came with us for the past 11 years. There will be pangs of sadness but I intend to enjoy every minute of my families company!
My father was doing one of his 'is this really my wife?' routines yesterday and I produced documentary evidence in the way of wedding day photos. I also told them that they had been married for 63 years this November.
My mother looked at my father and said 'Well, we could always get a divorce if you're not happy'. My father replied, 'Not likely, I'm not having anyone steal you away from me now!'.
Congratulations on your hostiness. I think you're a brick, even if some time you feel you're the only one holding up the wall in your private life.
Now, put down your glass, would you like to take some time out and clear your private mailbox which apparently is full to bursting, it's almost as untidy as my kitchen!
Today, after a space of about 30 years I hooked up with a friend from the past and he remembered Mum and the parties she let us have, cooking breakfast for a house full next morning, without turning a hair. Wow! More of it, please. She was bloody marvellous, he said and he is quite right. Good on yer, son. Made my day, anyway.
My dear kind partner, JJ, has today been asked for two interviews for new jobs and both sound very promising. He has been taking some awful **** from his current employer and it will serve him right if he loses him. Rattle those lucky charms. Happy days!
I also found out that friend from the past, some 30 years ago, is living about two miles from me! and hope to meet up with him and his better half soon.
Bruce, this site was a fine idea - I have determined to ensure a contribution each day, instead of being pessimistic. Thanks, once again. I'll be wearing pink feathers next!
As the heading suggests they are just coming out by the bucket load.
Dad is now in a 24 hr nursing home and where it is a great relief it also comes with the guilt. Dad has been away from home for 4 weeks now, hence my silence on this site for a while.
He has settled and has never asked to come home, or for me to take him out, which I have to say takes away a lot of the difficulties I had thought I would experience. Dad accepts the daily visits from me and Mum.
Like always I will never understand why this illness strikes the most nicest of people. Mum prays and talks to God every night to try to make Dad better and in some ways it works as he is now stable on his medication. He doesn't seem to be trying to escape, well not as far as I am aware, although in the back of my mind I have this feeling his is getting a plan together.
Now down to the response to this thread and the point I wanted to make.
My good bit to share is that Dad is enjoying the company of so many visitors, carers and residents. He responded so well yesterday when there was a visit from a lovely singer who sang all the old songs: Vera Lynn, Frank Sinatra, Ink Spots. Dad sang along with her on the mic, something he would never have done normally. Tears feel from his eyes as well as mine that day so it must have brought back his memories.
I know not everyone has good experiences in care homes but this is one that is really trying to make it a comfortable place for the patients to be in.
I'm so glad you've found a good home. I was beginning to think there was only one such place - Jan's.
We need stories of good homes to quell the natural feelings we all have when a loved one becomes resident in one.
When a partner/parent/sibling moves into a care home, we don't forget them. We just realise that, for them, it will be geared to care on a 24 hour basis, in situations where we cannot supply that level of care.
You'd be more than welcome in Rochester - I'm so glad that I managed to move Mum and Dad out of London so that I could keep an eye on them both as Mum is disabled.
I do have to add that it is taking all their hard earned money but that has been a minor point to accept as when it runs out I know that they will still get that care.
The staff in the care home, in the main - you always get the exception, try to make it one big family home, that way when visitors come in they speak to the other residents. Some are very poorly which is the saddest part to see - such vibrant people becoming imprisoned by this illness.