Hello to everybody.
I'm new in this forum and I'm not native English speaking.
Since a couple of months my grandmother has been disgnosticate Althzaimer.
She is 83 years old and lives with grandfahter (84 years old) in their own flat.
Grandfather has several problemes: he can't walk without someone who helps him, he is incontinent and has diabete, so he need someone who care him.
We convince them to get a person for 4 hours in the morning for helping Grandfahter and cooking (grandmother isn't able to cook by herself... she is very confused!).
Now we notice that they need to be monitorized and helped all day, so we found an other persone for the afternoon untile 8.30pm whrn they go to bed.
Grandfather acceepted the other persone because he needs help, but grandmother no....
She is became aggressive with my mum (her lonney doughter) and me.
She says she doesn't need any help...
she fight with neighbours, with me, my Mum...
Since a copule of days she is shouting to the person who care of them in the afternoon and to me and my mum because she says she doesn't need anyone.
A couple if weeks ago, after a week of threatment, in according to the doctor, we have to suspend the Altzheimer cure because she do non tollerate pills and she saw non-real people and images. Next appointment to the doctor is in the second week of Sept for a kind of pills.
My Mum is seriusly thinking to a nursery home for both of them but in the same time we are not convince about that... it seems bad put them in an "house for old people".
We are tired... phone rings every time of day and night (grandmother calls for everithing), my parents and I can't spend a day together out of town because someone needs to care grandparents, no summer holidays, no christmas holidays... everyone is very nervous at home....
When Grandmother become aggressive with us, sometimes we shout at her but we don't know if is it a good thing.
Last night I shout at her by phone and after that I was so sorry that I wasn't able to sleep untile 2 am!
Any suggestion is appreciate. Sorry for my English but it isn't easy write this thing in English for me.
I'm new in this forum and I'm not native English speaking.
Since a couple of months my grandmother has been disgnosticate Althzaimer.
She is 83 years old and lives with grandfahter (84 years old) in their own flat.
Grandfather has several problemes: he can't walk without someone who helps him, he is incontinent and has diabete, so he need someone who care him.
We convince them to get a person for 4 hours in the morning for helping Grandfahter and cooking (grandmother isn't able to cook by herself... she is very confused!).
Now we notice that they need to be monitorized and helped all day, so we found an other persone for the afternoon untile 8.30pm whrn they go to bed.
Grandfather acceepted the other persone because he needs help, but grandmother no....
She is became aggressive with my mum (her lonney doughter) and me.
She says she doesn't need any help...
she fight with neighbours, with me, my Mum...
Since a copule of days she is shouting to the person who care of them in the afternoon and to me and my mum because she says she doesn't need anyone.
A couple if weeks ago, after a week of threatment, in according to the doctor, we have to suspend the Altzheimer cure because she do non tollerate pills and she saw non-real people and images. Next appointment to the doctor is in the second week of Sept for a kind of pills.
My Mum is seriusly thinking to a nursery home for both of them but in the same time we are not convince about that... it seems bad put them in an "house for old people".
We are tired... phone rings every time of day and night (grandmother calls for everithing), my parents and I can't spend a day together out of town because someone needs to care grandparents, no summer holidays, no christmas holidays... everyone is very nervous at home....
When Grandmother become aggressive with us, sometimes we shout at her but we don't know if is it a good thing.
Last night I shout at her by phone and after that I was so sorry that I wasn't able to sleep untile 2 am!
Any suggestion is appreciate. Sorry for my English but it isn't easy write this thing in English for me.