My mother, ages 79, had short term memory loss for a long time. She lived alone and 70 miles from me. Then she had a bad fall and broke her pelvis and was taken to hospital. When she was there her confusion got a lot worse and the hospital said she wasnt safe to live alone and she needed a nursing home. So I took professional advice and found her one near to me. when her pelvis was a bit better they discharged her to there and I had to sell her bungalow to pay the £800 per week fees. But she HATES it...like REALLY hates it. She wont eat the food and she is really rude to the staff and if she wasnt so frail she would be violent. But when she is more lucid, she thinks she is there on a temp basis and she will come out and go and live by herself again. If I try and explain to her this wont happen she gets even more upset, but I feel guilty to lie and pretend she will come out and live by herself when I really cant see she ever will. My son says just let her think one day she will come out and act like she is just in hospital but this seems morally wrong but it also seems cruel to cause unecessary upset to her. What is best for her?