I found out on the weekend that since she got the new oven mum has not eaten. I arrived last night with a cart load of food she can pick at from the fridge, plus many microwave meals' only to find Mum DRUNK I think (I found a big glass of brandy)..... she was shuffling , not walking ...she could not speak' only murmer words.I had my disabled daughter with me who cried all the way home because she thought nanny was dying...I made mum coffee and cooked her a meal today she can not remember me being there. Then got home at 8 to start cooking for my own children..... Rang SW today in a panic she said get the carer who at the moment only gives the pills to make sure mum eats as we pay for 2 half hour visits & she only stays for 5 min's. Also to ring the doctor to get the district nurse to check mums blood because the shuffling sounds like her diabetes could be affected with the not eating. The carer has not rang me back and doctors receptionist was very rude she said the nurses would not come out for something like that....then said the doctor would ring me back and put the phone down (without taking my number) I did not sleep last night kept thinking my mum will starve to death or lots of other horrible things. What do I do i am thinking about somewhere for Mum to live where other people are around so she will not resort to Brandy for company where she will have her own front door but still be able to see people. What are these places called do they exist and where do I start looking if they do... also is there a place like that for me I can't cope much more.