Sadly we have come to the stage when at home care is not working for Mum and we have decided on a care home. We have found a fantastic one local to her and are getting our heads around the fact that this is the rightthing to do. Heads say yes, hearts scream no! Biggest issue is what do we tell Mum, we have tried to discuss but she doesn't understand and her short term memory is so bad even if we did manage to get an understanding from her she will have forgotten this conversation an hour later. Our heart is breaking at the thought of her confusion when we take her. Has anyone else been in this situation and what did you tell her/him? We thought just telling her the Dr said she needs to stay there for a while and then deal with it on a day to day basis. Its all so hard isn't it!?