Hi, I’m new to this but looking for some help & advice. My dad is 78 and has Alzheimer’s which is progressing quite quickly.
My mum (his wife of 50 years) is his full time carer and she is starting to struggle as he becomes more & more confused and often agitated. He doesn’t always know who we are but he knows that he knows us. He is no longer capable of making even a sandwich but still eats what he is given, he doesn’t remember to wash or change his clothes but can generally be coaxed into doing these things with some help.
He frequently wants to go home, although we are not sure where home is as he has lived in the same house since 1970. Most times we can defer him to say we will go tomorrow or next week and he accepts this. He asks for his mum (she died 25 years ago) and again generally we can defer or distract him to avoid him becoming agitated.
In the mornings, he is now becoming increasingly agitated about needing to go to work. He obviously retired many years ago and is no longer capable of driving but we are really struggling to distract him with this. I worry that things will either become very aggressive or he will try and get in my mums car and drive? There is a tracker on the car but it just isn’t safe for him or anyone else. Any ideas to stop him while avoiding confrontation?
Thanks
My mum (his wife of 50 years) is his full time carer and she is starting to struggle as he becomes more & more confused and often agitated. He doesn’t always know who we are but he knows that he knows us. He is no longer capable of making even a sandwich but still eats what he is given, he doesn’t remember to wash or change his clothes but can generally be coaxed into doing these things with some help.
He frequently wants to go home, although we are not sure where home is as he has lived in the same house since 1970. Most times we can defer him to say we will go tomorrow or next week and he accepts this. He asks for his mum (she died 25 years ago) and again generally we can defer or distract him to avoid him becoming agitated.
In the mornings, he is now becoming increasingly agitated about needing to go to work. He obviously retired many years ago and is no longer capable of driving but we are really struggling to distract him with this. I worry that things will either become very aggressive or he will try and get in my mums car and drive? There is a tracker on the car but it just isn’t safe for him or anyone else. Any ideas to stop him while avoiding confrontation?
Thanks