Hi, I asked the same question on Wednesday and I put mum (who has mid stage Alzheimers) into care on Thursday. Ours was an emergency respite until she goes into sheltered accommodation. But she has settled in that well and can’t look after her own personal care needs etc, we aren’t going to move her. In the end I decided not to say anything on the day until we got to the home. I said we were going for a wee drive. Mum’s bags were packed and I kept them out of sight. When we arrived I said we were just going in to have a look round to see if she could stay for a few days while her heating at home is being fixed and she was happy to do that. CH staff were amazing with her, so relaxed and friendly, so in the end she was happy to stay. I went home Thurs night and had the first nights sleep without worry in months. I was so relieved she was in safe hands. I have been up everyday since and she is settled, happy and already made a new friend (they are like a double act and quite hilarious). She hasn’t once asked ‘when can I go home’ which she did constantly when she lived in her own house. Try not to worry too much about today - so that dad doesn’t pick up on your anxiety. I couldn’t have imagined it would be this positive. It also frees me up to begin to really enjoy spending time with mum again rather than being exhausted and worried about her all the time. Good luck today x