My lovely sister (aged 76), had a fall on the 4th July and broke her hip. She was taken to hospital where 4 days later it was operated on. She seemed to go off her head about 4 days after the op but I was told it was prob., due to the anaesthetic. She did get a lot clearer when once again it started about 10 days after the op. This time it was due to a UTI (catheter had been left in for about 8 days after the op). She was in hosp., for about 3 weeks and had 3 UTI's during that time. She was then sent home, barely able to walk, with a zimmer frame, carers were arranged but the different faces made her very confused and stressed.
She was home about 10 days when her carer came in to find her lying on the floor, (had been there all night). The carer called an ambulance as my sister was unable to get up then phoned me. Back to the same hospital, same ward but now with a broken shoulder. It was decided to let the break heal naturally, to be honest the last thing she needed was to have another op.
After 5 days she was sent to our local rehabilitation hosp., which we were both quite happy about as she went there after having a stroke some 3 years before as they did a marvellous job getting her walking and almost back to normal. I have noticed she has been getting more and more confused and voiced my concerns with my husband about her being safe enough back in her own home. The little home we put a new kitchen in, decorated from end to end which she has only been in for 2 years
Now, today, I am utterly devastated as I was taken aside and told the doctor has decided she cannot go home but must go into a care home as she does not have the mental capacity to stay safe. Although I know it is the correct decision for her safety I am finding it so hard. We were a family of 7, she never married, went too work (on her own aged 24 year old), to America in the 60's when it was unheard of and has been fiercely independant all of her life. Never even visited a doctor until her stroke.....
I couldn't face her today after getting the news but will go in tomorrow. The nurse has said she will tell her about the care home but I know with her memory loss it just wont stay in. What do I say when she asks me when she will be going home, as I know she will.....
She was home about 10 days when her carer came in to find her lying on the floor, (had been there all night). The carer called an ambulance as my sister was unable to get up then phoned me. Back to the same hospital, same ward but now with a broken shoulder. It was decided to let the break heal naturally, to be honest the last thing she needed was to have another op.
After 5 days she was sent to our local rehabilitation hosp., which we were both quite happy about as she went there after having a stroke some 3 years before as they did a marvellous job getting her walking and almost back to normal. I have noticed she has been getting more and more confused and voiced my concerns with my husband about her being safe enough back in her own home. The little home we put a new kitchen in, decorated from end to end which she has only been in for 2 years
Now, today, I am utterly devastated as I was taken aside and told the doctor has decided she cannot go home but must go into a care home as she does not have the mental capacity to stay safe. Although I know it is the correct decision for her safety I am finding it so hard. We were a family of 7, she never married, went too work (on her own aged 24 year old), to America in the 60's when it was unheard of and has been fiercely independant all of her life. Never even visited a doctor until her stroke.....
I couldn't face her today after getting the news but will go in tomorrow. The nurse has said she will tell her about the care home but I know with her memory loss it just wont stay in. What do I say when she asks me when she will be going home, as I know she will.....