Hello everyone. You may recall when I last put up a thread FIL was taken into hospital after a fall and hospital decided to do new mental assessment of him. He has now been there nearly a month. Doctors have now decided that he is not capable of making his own decisions and have put us in touch with social worker to discuss his needs. Physically he is now well and they want him off the ward as they need the bed.
Social worker spoke to hubby yesterday on phone and we have an appointment to see her at 2 pm tomorrow. She wanted to know "what we wanted to do". Hubby rather phased at this as, through lots of reading off your site and from friends, we were of the understanding that we had no real rights as such to make decisions on his behalf. Dad does not want to go into a nursing home, something he has been adamant about since day one. A nursing home we spoke to told us that they would not take him without his permission in any event, - how do we fit into that scenario?
Hubby very very upset. He does not want to go against father's wishes but is not sure how much longer Dad could cope being at home with an extended care package (I personally am not sure how much hubby could cope either).
I have suggested that we ask if Dad can go into nursing care for a couple of weeks on a pretext just to see if he likes it and, if he does, look into permanent care; if he doesn't, look into extended home care support again. Can we do this does anyone know or am I being naive?
It feels like a final decision is going to be needed from us tomorrow and firstly we don't think we have the capacity to do this and secondy, we don't feel fully versed in all the options to help us make final decisions. We have gone round in circles discussing it this evening. Help! Lizzie
Social worker spoke to hubby yesterday on phone and we have an appointment to see her at 2 pm tomorrow. She wanted to know "what we wanted to do". Hubby rather phased at this as, through lots of reading off your site and from friends, we were of the understanding that we had no real rights as such to make decisions on his behalf. Dad does not want to go into a nursing home, something he has been adamant about since day one. A nursing home we spoke to told us that they would not take him without his permission in any event, - how do we fit into that scenario?
Hubby very very upset. He does not want to go against father's wishes but is not sure how much longer Dad could cope being at home with an extended care package (I personally am not sure how much hubby could cope either).
I have suggested that we ask if Dad can go into nursing care for a couple of weeks on a pretext just to see if he likes it and, if he does, look into permanent care; if he doesn't, look into extended home care support again. Can we do this does anyone know or am I being naive?
It feels like a final decision is going to be needed from us tomorrow and firstly we don't think we have the capacity to do this and secondy, we don't feel fully versed in all the options to help us make final decisions. We have gone round in circles discussing it this evening. Help! Lizzie