Hello, I have recently joined this site as my mum has Dementia. Diagnosed 09/1012, dad was main carer until he passed away just before Xmas. I had been helping him on a daily basis (more or less given up work) since June last year. After dad passed away, I've been living here with my mum. I joined to see how people cope with respite - we took my mum down to a local CH this afternoon for a 2 week stay - they've just rung up and said they can't deal with her/had to restrain and would we come and collect her. I didn't think she'd like it/be happy from the start, but what do we do now????? And yes, the CH does 'do' Dementia Feeling really sad.