MUm has gradually been deteriorating over the last 18 months. She can still dress, wash, make herself a cup of tea but she can't remember anything for more than 5 minutes and will let anyone ino the house no matter how many times we tell her not to. She has carers 3 times a day to give her meds/make meals etc and she goes to a couple of day centres but doesn't remember any of it and so is always feeling lonely. She came to stay with us for a week over Christmas and managed to fall out of bed one night, bruising her ribs. She's now in respie care as she couldn;t manage my sairs with her ribs and was also finding it very difficult even to get out of her chair without a lot of pain. She has been in the same home before while we were on holiday and liked it but this time she seems quite muddled and doesn't remember she was there before or how she got there. Her ribs are a lot better now and I can't decide whether we should take her back to her house or leave her in the home. The staff in the home are lovely and I know she will be well looked after and be safe but she still knows it's not her own home and hankers to go back. I feel so guilty but Christmas proved that we couldn't manage to have her live with us and though she would really like the idea of going back home I can't help feeling she would be so much better off in the care home.