My husband is on a two week respite/assessment for full time care, having been there 5 days. Apart from the guilt trip I am on beating myself up as to whether this is the right thing to do, I am wondering what people advise about contacting/ visiting him. I gave him a mobile phone to use in and it's easier for me to contact him on it as the care home phone is used by the residents and as you can imagine frequently is lost or engaged as they have left it off the hook. But he keeps ringing me at bizarre times to tell me about 'people' in his room as he suffers from hallucinations. I tell him to talk to the staff. I don't know if the phone was a good idea as I don't want him relying on me when he should be talking to the staff. I also don't know what to do about visiting. I went once as he went in on short notice so had to take his clothes. Should I restrict contact/visits to try and get him to settle or let him know I'm still around. It's so hard to know what to do for the best but if he keeps contacting I'm not getting a break and I think it may be unsettling him. Advise please.