So...... my mum moved in last Friday with furniture etc ‘for a trial period’ I had a month in mind but after 2 days I knew I couldn’t do this. I’ve had to cut her alcohol intake because in the evenings she was becoming belligerent, verbal outbursts, without justification. Evenings have improved but she barely makes conversation, she’s very doddery freestyles with her Zimmer frame, does nothing for herself. My son says he’s worried about bringing his girlfriend to the house and more importantly my hubby is shocked by how bad she is. I’m not shocked just terribly sad that I can’t do this, I feel as if I’ve gone back into lockdown. I dont want to compromise my families quality of life and I want to be her daughter not her Carer. She doesn’t want to go home but sadly that is what will be happening. My sister and I will then hopefully convince her to move into a nursing home near us so we can visit her frequently, know she is cared for and achieve a quality of life for all concerned.