Many people have tried to persuade my Dad (who is in a home 40 miles away) to let me have POA after his stroke 4 years ago but no luck. He seems to think that I will spend all his money which is very insulting as I am now buying most of his stuff out of my money.He would be capable of doing his finances with help but has left everything to my Mum to do and she is fast becoming incapable of doing much. Mum has early vascular dementia and has had many red bills recently and is obviously finding it hard to cope with money. As she would not understand what she is signing we can't go down that route of getting her to sign POA so have been left with trying to do everything official without any proper authority for the past 4 years. My Husband is getting fed up with subsidising them as I obviously can't let either of them go without but it is starting to add up when I buy them lots of bits here and there.They have more disposable income than us so its not as though they can't afford to pay their own way, one is very tightfisted and the other can be excused though dementia. They have joint accounts which makes life a nightmare for social service accounts and I don't know whether Dad's refusal to do a POA means that I can't go to court to get POA for Mum.Their accounts are either to sign and the house is in his name only. I did ask one of their social workers what would happen if I refused to do anymore without proper authority and she was so shocked that I didn't get a reply. Anyone any experience with this or can give any helpful advice. If it would involve spending a lot of money I would have problems with my Husband agreeing to it.