My mother is deteriorating fast in the nursing home. i suspect a lot of this is because she is so unhappy there she is fading fast. She was discharged there from hospital on the advice of professionals who said she would never be able to manage alone. I still have this view and so do the care home staff. However all she EVER says is when is she getting out of there coming up with wilder and wilder plans, although I have explained dozens of times why she cant live alone. She resents bitterly the fact I cant have her to live with me, and when she is not abusing me about that she is crying about it. Visits have become torture for us both and I am honestly beginning to think maybe I ought to just rent her a flat for 6 months on a AST and see how she gets on there. I know this sounds very cruel but I honestly cant think anything can be worse that the current situation. We did look at sheltered flats for sale but the manager felt she was too frail to live there Has anyone else had this type of experience and how have u dealt with it?