Hi
Can anyone give some advice?
My 83 year old mother has become very confused and forgetful. We're yet to have a diagnosis but a CPN who recently visited mentioned Alzheimer's was a possibility.
Mum lives with my (nearly blind) stepfather who, to my mind reacts totally inappropriately to Mum's muddle-headedness. Although he is a very kind, loving husband he jokes about her confusion and reminds her of some of the "unusual" things she's said or done. Mum gets easily agitated at the best of times, but his remarks sometimes compound this.
Both of them try to carry on life as normal, regardless of the fact they're both 80+ : whilst very admirable, this includes a daily walk to the local shop ( at least 40 mins with a fairly steep hill to get home - Mum is a chronic asthmatic in "remission" from lung cancer) and I sometimes think she's so tired that she just can't think clearly.
I live about 3 miles from Mum and phone her every day, visiting 2-3 times a week. Although I don't work I have MS which causes mobility problems (I need 2 sticks) and I don't drive. My older sister lives 250 miles away. I feel guilty that I don't do enough for Mum, don't see her often enough - my husband disagrees with me, and I'm in turmoil!
Have I rambled?
Can anyone give some advice?
My 83 year old mother has become very confused and forgetful. We're yet to have a diagnosis but a CPN who recently visited mentioned Alzheimer's was a possibility.
Mum lives with my (nearly blind) stepfather who, to my mind reacts totally inappropriately to Mum's muddle-headedness. Although he is a very kind, loving husband he jokes about her confusion and reminds her of some of the "unusual" things she's said or done. Mum gets easily agitated at the best of times, but his remarks sometimes compound this.
Both of them try to carry on life as normal, regardless of the fact they're both 80+ : whilst very admirable, this includes a daily walk to the local shop ( at least 40 mins with a fairly steep hill to get home - Mum is a chronic asthmatic in "remission" from lung cancer) and I sometimes think she's so tired that she just can't think clearly.
I live about 3 miles from Mum and phone her every day, visiting 2-3 times a week. Although I don't work I have MS which causes mobility problems (I need 2 sticks) and I don't drive. My older sister lives 250 miles away. I feel guilty that I don't do enough for Mum, don't see her often enough - my husband disagrees with me, and I'm in turmoil!
Have I rambled?
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