So, my brother and his wife are visiting for the first time in 9 months - Mum is really bad this week - suspect a urine infection as the 'wee' smell is strong. She point blank refuses to see her GP and I think they feel that I should be somehow making her do this. They have had to clean her house as it was pretty bad but she had refused to let me do it - or to help her do it. She has been really bad since they arrived - very confused etc. She usually manages not too badly for a 93 year old but at the moment I am being made to feel that she is incapable of living on her own and I should 'do something'. What can I do without bullying her?