I have just hit a milestone today - by finally taking his bank card off him. I feel awful about it - but he was spending money he did not have - just on lottery tickets and other rubbish - nothing 'proper'.
Myself and his son have PoA, and we had arranged last year for OH to have a 'pocket money' account which I would keep topped up from the household account. I started topping up £50 per week as spending money, then £60/£70/£80 - today I topped up £100 today, and it is still overdrawn.
His son, who shares PoA with me, and I have decided to ask OH for his 'pocket money' bank card - and I will give him cash in hand pocket money each week and when it is gone it is gone.
He did not seem to understand why I was taking this action - but did not create, and did hand his bank card over. I assured him I cannot use it, as I do not know the pin.
Why then, do I feel so awful at taking this step, when he is completely unconcerned??
I suppose it's because it is another step in this disease.