I am a only child, cared for mum for a year and half, for 40 hours a week. She doesn't go anywhere without me, we go to the Alzheimers Cafe's 3 times a week and trips out etc.... She can't manage her drugs very well, so I give them, but otherwise she is safe to live on her own. However, from me leaving at 5pm at night and going back at 9am next morning and at weekends she is lonely. Hardly any family or friends and she is abrupt and can't understand why I can't go more at the weekends. I am married, live 12 miles away and I need weekends to clean and garden and time with my husband. So I am fed up, depressed, tired, and need a solution... I keep putting it off, but I think the time is coming for a better solution. Mum is deteriorating a little, but I worry about the dark nights, mum stressed because she doesn't like being on her own, locking doors correctly, turning gas fire on and off, eating and drinking etc.... She eats when I am there and we go for fish and chips once a week and other places and I cook. But when I am not there I suspect she eats crisps and biscuits and cake - the odd sandwich. She is a very independent lady (50's lady). Her house and garden is her palace and although she has a gardener now, she still cleans around the house and I do the hard jobs. She loves clothes, but has lost 3 stone and moves her clothes and belongings around the home and can never find anything and I get the blame. So ideally I would like mum to have a flat or nice room in a place where she is safe and can have meals and carers if she eventually needs them, but is there places like that. I feel the care home is too much yet, but a flat or bungalow, would be no better - she still would be vunerable.... She isn't going to be happy with whatever I say - she refused carers, befrienders and any strangers....