After advice again!
Dad has Alzheimer's and vascular dementia. He's been managing with a live in carer who looks after him from when he gets up about 9:30 til he goes to bed at about 10:00 (although he is quite unsteady, and gets up once or twice he generally manages himself at night. They have a 2hr break in the afternoon and leave him a message on a white board saying that they are in the house and will be back at 4:00. They have also left him a note next to his chair in the sitting room with details of a film he might like to watch.
This has worked fine until the last couple of days when he has gone to sleep and woken up distressed that he cannot find anyone in the house. They have come down to find him sitting in the dark in the sitting room with tv, fire and lights switched off and very upset. He hasnt remembered to read the white boards :-( I live 200 miles away so cant go in to cover that time although my sister and I are usually there for a couple of days each week- we'd like to keep him at home if possible, at least until covid is under control and we can visit where ever he ends up
Any suggestions on
Dad has Alzheimer's and vascular dementia. He's been managing with a live in carer who looks after him from when he gets up about 9:30 til he goes to bed at about 10:00 (although he is quite unsteady, and gets up once or twice he generally manages himself at night. They have a 2hr break in the afternoon and leave him a message on a white board saying that they are in the house and will be back at 4:00. They have also left him a note next to his chair in the sitting room with details of a film he might like to watch.
This has worked fine until the last couple of days when he has gone to sleep and woken up distressed that he cannot find anyone in the house. They have come down to find him sitting in the dark in the sitting room with tv, fire and lights switched off and very upset. He hasnt remembered to read the white boards :-( I live 200 miles away so cant go in to cover that time although my sister and I are usually there for a couple of days each week- we'd like to keep him at home if possible, at least until covid is under control and we can visit where ever he ends up
Any suggestions on
- what we can do right now to help this? (gadgets, strategies' or next steps). I'm going to try ringing him as he has a phone next to his chair and will usually answer.
- what we should be planning/putting in place as his condition deteriorates? He doesn't want to go into a care home "and sit in rows watching the telly" but he really does need constant company and increasing assistance (i.e. he forgets where the bathroom is but can find it when he goes to look)