diabetes, high blood pressure and dizziness
Hello,
I haven't written here for ages, I find it more intersting just reading what every1 has to say right now.
My mother is newly 91 (this month) and I haven't been able to see her for a whole year! which is horrible, but I am kept in touch through my family in Uk.
I first noticed when my mother came over to spain in 1996 (for the last time , as both my parents where getting a bit fragile for travelling) although they had a LOVELY LAST TIME with us and my father thoughtfully labelled all the photos proudly and dated them , and they are priceless!!!!!
Well, what happened was that around the start of her 2 week visit, mummy started to feel dizzy, and I noticed that her face was oddly twisted around the mouth, and she had lost a lot of weight, due i imagine to the onset of her diabetes, then I didn't take her diabetes too seriously but now I know just how important it was in contributing to this devastating disease known as vascular dementia, we knew she had a history of high-blood pressure ...... she gave birth to twins and i think they found out then...... she herself is a twin!
Well, I went over with my family - husband (spanish) and 2 children every year after that and over on my own for Xmas , so I saw quite a lot of her and daddy.
mummy- in summer for a month's stay. Mummy began behaving oddly a year or so before my father's death....they were like Derby and Joan!!! you know, things would go missing, watches and clothes and so on would end up in peculiar places, and as their was no daily help , it had to be my mother! A very talented woman, who could recite endless poetry and play a piano piece and painted (oil paintings) and played golf in mixed doubles and won lots of prizes even her last one when she was 80 which left us flabberghasted!!!!!! extraordinary person and very outgoing, sometimes a little difficult, but she always was! Then it progressed in a downward slide after my father died. He just kept going to the doctor's amazement for her sake!!!! an incredible man and sweet and gentle.
But he found coping with mother very difficult as he had severe emphesema and even bought an automatic car to be able to take mummy for runs in the country........ and for the odd picnic with us. But we knew he was finding it impossible to get a break and yet not wanting to admit mummy was that ill.
Anyhow, my mother would have agressive moments and then be sorry which was in a way how she could be in the past but much worse! She once pinned me up against the wall as I wasn't going to let her go home(NOT) to her childhood home actually, and had donned her hat and coat and saying , Well it's been very nice but i have to go now, and get the bus." I was alone with Mummy then and I just said , "Well mummy, I don't think it's a good idea, because there are bad people out there and it's dark........." It was a difficult moment.
Now Mummy having been looked after by a care assistant since just before 2002
began to decline and after my dad died, she would go and look for him and ask where he was and stuff like that , and the dilemma was should we say he was dead or that we didn't know when he'd be back - I used to say the latter as was worried she'd have another stroke.........(she'd had multiple infarcts) and the terrible fainting episode took place when she changed colour , a greyish tone, when with my sister......
Now Mummy's in a nursing home, near where she used to live, and I'm going to see her in July - but i've been told she's had another fall recently as she's walking very quickly now that she's lost so much weight and in spite of her recent hip operation which was a great success......but they're putting her downstairs now with some other patients , as she doesn't like (never did!) being alone at night.
and that way they can keep a better eye on her.......
I've heard that she's lost a lot of her beautiful white fluffy hair,,,,,,poor mummy.
She gets upset when a visits over from either my brother or my two sisters...and sometimes says, "why did you leave me in this horrible place?" b ut now seems to be more settled and tries to be sociable..... she recognises all of us, hope she remembers me(!?!!) and this is the funny thing about vascular dementia........ she wants to do things but can't......... oh, well . my sister went to visit her, and had to laugh when in the garden there, she turned to her and said, " well you haven't done a bad job here" SHE'S STILL MY DARLING, FUNNY MOTHER........ THE ONE WITH A WAY WITH WORDS., STILL GETS THE ODD REMARK IN THERE! will always love my darling mother, she tagught me not to be so sensitive about people and what they thought of me,,,,,,,,,,saying (when she was already ill) they say, what say they, LET THEM SAY........ i LOVE THAT.....
TO MY MOTHER WHO WAS A LOVER OF FLOWERS AND BIRDS AND SWEET TO ALL THE ANIMALS - AND A LOVER OF MUSIC, you'RE LIVING HAS NOT BEEN IN VAIN, BECAUSE YOU HAVE HELPED SOMEBODY GOING DOWN THE ROAD (STH LIKE THAT YOU KNOW THE SONG?) AND TO ALL OF THOSE OTHER SWEET PEOPLE WHOSE MINDS HAVE BEEN CRUELLY ROBBED.........AS SB. IN THIS WEBSITE PUT SO BEAUTIFULLY, IN A POEM CALLED "MY WEE MOTHER" (?) ANYWAY TO ALL OF THESE PEOPLE UNDESERVING OF SUCH A CRUEL FATE, GOD BE WITH YOU ALL.
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