I take care of my husbands Uncle who is 88 and has been diagnosed with Dimensia. I take care of him because he lives with my husbands mom and she works full time and they don't want to put him in a home. I am a stay at home mom to my 4 yr old son so I was the best candidate to look after him because I am at home. My issues are this: I get paid for looking after him but I get paid to look after him from 10-4 everyday, but I actually look after him from 7-4:30 because he can't be left alone for a minute or he wanders, or does abnormal things... eating glue etc., So anyway... I dont care about the financial part of it I want to help my husbands family out they have taken care of him for 40 years as he has never been married or anything so he came to stay with them all those years ago while he had malaria and then never left. So I try to have patience I truly do... but on days like today, I went upstairs to check on my little boy who was playing upstairs and heard the front door open I came down and said Harry quick shut the door cuz the dog will get out (I have a little yorkie). He said he didnt see any ******* dog and wanted to leave. So he went past me and tried to go out the back door. (He has a note that tells him where he is, and for how long during the day etc. ) So I told him to please have a seat my husband (his nephew) would be home soon to take him home. He yelled 'well he will have a long way to come then' and tried to go back to the front door so I stopped him not knowing where my stupid house key was to lock it ... So anyway I tried to tell him that he would be going home soon he was screaming profanities at me and pushed me hurting my back ( I can barely stand up now as I had back surgery there years earlier) not his fault I know but it is so hard. I am stressed out with a sick son (he has a bad cold) and arguing with Harry all day long. He doesnt believe anything I say. I just can't do this. I don't want to let my husbands family down. We are moving to the USA (I am from there) in about 6 months and they have said as soon as we leave they are putting him in a home because he is getting so aggressive and last week he got physical with my sister in law who is 9months pregnant and she told him to be careful because she is pregnant he told her it is her fault not his. I feel bad for him, and when he gets me so mad I could cry I feel so guilty for feeling that way. If I say to my hubby's family I can't cope with this they will put him in a home now and it will be all my fault. Please help me how to cope. I just don't want the guilt anymore. I get so depressed at the weekend knowing I have to do this all week and am stuck in the house that I am going into a depression. You can't take him anywhere he throws fits and fights me... so I am stuck in the house locking him and I in all day long :-(