For the third time since last August my husband has been given a deadline to decide whether or not to go ahead with the next stage of diagnosis. After an hour of the sort of 11 plus verbal reasoning questions he would have found too hard thirty years ago, in front of an audience (doc, me, doc's student) he asked to stop. I think he was tired as well as fed up. The doctor gave him a fortnight "to make up his mind" whether to continue. As the expected diagnosis is Vascular Dementia and his heart condition would probably rule out any drug treatment - we really don't know what he would be turning down. Financial benefits? Driving ban? When I asked, the doctor suggested "post diagnosis support" - too late really, as we probably need "during diagnosis support"! - and "relationship counselling" which we have managed without quite well for 30 years. From your experience, what are the pro's and con's of going through this?