Hi there,
I haven't been here for a while and some may remember back in July/August 07 the decision we, my sister & I, had to make re our Mum moving to a Residential Nursing home. She had spent 9 weeks in an assessment unit at the hospital, where they were monitoring her & trying various levels of medications and eventually took her off the Aricept because it was making her aggressive as she also has Bipolar (Manic depression - only just diagnosed) as well as the Alzheimer/Dementia.
Well she moved in to the Residential part of the home on 10th August 2007, and all seemed to be 'NORMAL' whatever that is. Some days Mum doesn't want to be there, but after explaining that I couldn't look after her like they can. (I have a 4 yr old daughter and couldnt allow her to witness certain things - Mum is now doubly incontinent too). She is usually okay and we then talk about something else, although we do have the same conversation at least once a week. The staff at the home are lovely, friendly & caring keeping us informed and up to date with events that occur. My sister comes up every other weekend with her 2 youngsters to see Mum, travelling 450 miles round trip and rings the home up too. We have also started to take Mum out, but this weekend she wandered off a couple of times & we all (Me, sis and 3 kids aged 4, 4 & 6) spent ages looking for her as it happens so quick.
Anyway getting to whats is worrying us the most is that approx 3 weeks ago Mum had a couple of falls out of bed. Luckily she was fine and no brokens bones etc. The home phoned me to advise me and phoned the doctor. So Mum now has an alarm mat beside her bed and a foam bolster thing which velcros on her bed under the sheet at night to prevent her from rolling. She has become quite slow in her movement which we put down to the decreased activety, but her voice is very very quiet and she is not eating properly. She puts the food in her mouth and chews it but then sometimes gags and has to spit it out. The home have tried offering her all different food alternatives, even pureeing some foods and ask me what Mum likes and dislikes as I know her better.
Mum always liked her food with a passion, especially sweet things & puddings but she even gags on yoghurt, trifle, custard, cream you name it we've tried it. She is also not taking in enough fluids and only has a sip of tea, water, juice etc then leaves it.
The Consultant from the hospital was contacted too & came to see Mum last week, and witnessed Mum gagging too. She is also aware that Mum liked her food as saw her in the hospital daily. She has referred Mum for another CT scan (to see if she has had a miny stroke) and to see an eating & speech doctor?
Should I chase it up? Why is this happening? What is happening? Mum is along way off from the end of this awful illness and will end up back in hospital if this continues. Is she just being stubborn, as never liked being told what to do? Is she having a tantrum because she doesnt want to be at the home? I am at my wits end with worry.
Anyway sorry if the above is a bit confusing, I read it back several times - and am confused myself. So if anyone has any thoughts or ideas - they would be greatfully
received.
Love and Best wishes to all
Melanie
I haven't been here for a while and some may remember back in July/August 07 the decision we, my sister & I, had to make re our Mum moving to a Residential Nursing home. She had spent 9 weeks in an assessment unit at the hospital, where they were monitoring her & trying various levels of medications and eventually took her off the Aricept because it was making her aggressive as she also has Bipolar (Manic depression - only just diagnosed) as well as the Alzheimer/Dementia.
Well she moved in to the Residential part of the home on 10th August 2007, and all seemed to be 'NORMAL' whatever that is. Some days Mum doesn't want to be there, but after explaining that I couldn't look after her like they can. (I have a 4 yr old daughter and couldnt allow her to witness certain things - Mum is now doubly incontinent too). She is usually okay and we then talk about something else, although we do have the same conversation at least once a week. The staff at the home are lovely, friendly & caring keeping us informed and up to date with events that occur. My sister comes up every other weekend with her 2 youngsters to see Mum, travelling 450 miles round trip and rings the home up too. We have also started to take Mum out, but this weekend she wandered off a couple of times & we all (Me, sis and 3 kids aged 4, 4 & 6) spent ages looking for her as it happens so quick.
Anyway getting to whats is worrying us the most is that approx 3 weeks ago Mum had a couple of falls out of bed. Luckily she was fine and no brokens bones etc. The home phoned me to advise me and phoned the doctor. So Mum now has an alarm mat beside her bed and a foam bolster thing which velcros on her bed under the sheet at night to prevent her from rolling. She has become quite slow in her movement which we put down to the decreased activety, but her voice is very very quiet and she is not eating properly. She puts the food in her mouth and chews it but then sometimes gags and has to spit it out. The home have tried offering her all different food alternatives, even pureeing some foods and ask me what Mum likes and dislikes as I know her better.
Mum always liked her food with a passion, especially sweet things & puddings but she even gags on yoghurt, trifle, custard, cream you name it we've tried it. She is also not taking in enough fluids and only has a sip of tea, water, juice etc then leaves it.
The Consultant from the hospital was contacted too & came to see Mum last week, and witnessed Mum gagging too. She is also aware that Mum liked her food as saw her in the hospital daily. She has referred Mum for another CT scan (to see if she has had a miny stroke) and to see an eating & speech doctor?
Should I chase it up? Why is this happening? What is happening? Mum is along way off from the end of this awful illness and will end up back in hospital if this continues. Is she just being stubborn, as never liked being told what to do? Is she having a tantrum because she doesnt want to be at the home? I am at my wits end with worry.
Anyway sorry if the above is a bit confusing, I read it back several times - and am confused myself. So if anyone has any thoughts or ideas - they would be greatfully
received.
Love and Best wishes to all
Melanie