In order to get her diagnosed I know I need to get her in contact with her Dr but this is where the problem starts. She is VERY anti Dr and anti medication, always has been and every time I mention the Dr she is suddenly ok ‘I’m fine’ she says... she is not....
I am continuing to persuade mum to call the dr and if that doesn't work I will probably see if I can get the dr to call her but I’m worried that this will betray her trust which I have at the moment. I dont want her to turn against me as it will make everything so much harder. So my question is can I get mum home help without an official diagnosis. She can safely cook and keep her self and the bungalow clean and tidy so this is fine. I just need someone who understand how to handle dementia to call on her regularly to just check she’s ok. She gets really worried and panicky when letters from the bank or any unexpected post arrives. once we have POA we can re direct her mail but there will always be something she gets in a panic about. She can’t understand things anymore. She does ring me and we speak daily but I’m in Wales and she is in Cheltenham so I can’t pop in to check she is ok (esp. at the moment) The neighbours have ‘fallen out with her’ and they don’t speak. She has only one friend who is self isolating and it’s also not fair on him to be the one to ‘look after‘ mum. He’s late 70’s and has his own life to live.
Any advise gratefully received
I am continuing to persuade mum to call the dr and if that doesn't work I will probably see if I can get the dr to call her but I’m worried that this will betray her trust which I have at the moment. I dont want her to turn against me as it will make everything so much harder. So my question is can I get mum home help without an official diagnosis. She can safely cook and keep her self and the bungalow clean and tidy so this is fine. I just need someone who understand how to handle dementia to call on her regularly to just check she’s ok. She gets really worried and panicky when letters from the bank or any unexpected post arrives. once we have POA we can re direct her mail but there will always be something she gets in a panic about. She can’t understand things anymore. She does ring me and we speak daily but I’m in Wales and she is in Cheltenham so I can’t pop in to check she is ok (esp. at the moment) The neighbours have ‘fallen out with her’ and they don’t speak. She has only one friend who is self isolating and it’s also not fair on him to be the one to ‘look after‘ mum. He’s late 70’s and has his own life to live.
Any advise gratefully received