Today I attended hospital for a biopsy regarding a non life threatening skin condition and as requested I gathered all my medicines to take with me. When Pauline asked me why I said I presume it is in case I am kept in overnight and they have medication for me. It was then she asked the question I have worried about, “but who will look after me if they do, what will happen to me?” This led to a long chat of mainly reassurance but also practical stuff but the most telling was when she calmly said , “It’s no good asking my three to look after me as they arn’t interested in me anymore.” The upshot is I am going to draw up and emergency plan about contacts and if possible my youngest daughter (a community nurse) to try and place her in an assisted living facility as she is not right for a care home yet and, as Pauline admitted she cant look after herself for long owning to short term memory loss and so will depend on dependable assistance on tap so to speak. For so long she just wouldnt take part in any question about care as she never believed it would be needed. Anyone else had such a conversation and what advice would you give in this situation? Cheers.