So we've got to the stage whereby we are struggling. Every visit there's a new problem to solve.... and then insecurity hit.
Mum has lived on her own since dad died 8yrs ago. She's had twice daily carers for a year now. She's ditzy, forgetful and so repetative. Recently, she went a wandering at 11pm and got bought home eventually by ambulance after locking herself out. Next morning she was off again. This time taking refuge with a neighbour for 2 hrs til family arrived to let her back in. We warned her not to go out at night in the dark. It's not safe we told her. Almost immediately she's scared, lonely and won't be left alone. Crying and creating and throwing herself in the sofa exclaiming she will commit suicide unless she can live with one of us "children" of 53, 51 and 44. It's so hard to witness. ATM We're taking it in turns to be with her 24/7 but it can't go on. She won't go into a CH. I've told SS that we cannot keep on like it. It's too much. She lives 60 miles away. We have jobs and children at school. No space to have her move in. We're in despair. I rang social services. DUTY SW informed me today that if I withdrew my care, they would have to "put mum in emergency care" It would be awful for her. Scary and I shouldn't do it. Wait for the the useless review, that we can't give you a date for,!
So what I need is clarification. What will actually happen if I ring and say. "Your responsibility" to the council. In easy steps please
Ty
Mum has lived on her own since dad died 8yrs ago. She's had twice daily carers for a year now. She's ditzy, forgetful and so repetative. Recently, she went a wandering at 11pm and got bought home eventually by ambulance after locking herself out. Next morning she was off again. This time taking refuge with a neighbour for 2 hrs til family arrived to let her back in. We warned her not to go out at night in the dark. It's not safe we told her. Almost immediately she's scared, lonely and won't be left alone. Crying and creating and throwing herself in the sofa exclaiming she will commit suicide unless she can live with one of us "children" of 53, 51 and 44. It's so hard to witness. ATM We're taking it in turns to be with her 24/7 but it can't go on. She won't go into a CH. I've told SS that we cannot keep on like it. It's too much. She lives 60 miles away. We have jobs and children at school. No space to have her move in. We're in despair. I rang social services. DUTY SW informed me today that if I withdrew my care, they would have to "put mum in emergency care" It would be awful for her. Scary and I shouldn't do it. Wait for the the useless review, that we can't give you a date for,!
So what I need is clarification. What will actually happen if I ring and say. "Your responsibility" to the council. In easy steps please
Ty