An odd title, I know, but I just wondered exactly what has been switched off in my mum's brain. There is a complete laissez faire attitude about her now. Tonight, I had arranged for her to be taken out, entertained, etc. I rang her midday to remind her (umpteenth time). 'Yes, yes, I'll be here when x arrives'. I've just had the carer on the phone to say mum is not at home! I'm fuming. I know she can't remember and it's not deliberate, but it's so bl**dy frustrating. And when she eventually rolls up, possible midnight with so much shopping she can't carry it (the last trip she forgot one shopping bag), she'll say, 'I can stay out as long as I like.' I'm heartily sick and tired of this. She moans because she's on her own all the time, nobody rings, nobody comes to see her, (they do) and the one time she has the chance to go out and about with a bit of company she blows it. What this proves to me, of course, is just how vulnerable she is. Exactly why has her empathy/caring swtich been turned to OFF? Sorry to rant, but I'm sick of putting every evening on hold until I know she's 'arrived home' from wherever she's been! And never has my little footnote at the bottom of this post been more appropriate - and now I've also just spotted an errant apostrophe in my title!!