What does end of life care mean

[Suze99]

My mum is being assessed tomorrow to see if she is end of life. Two hospital admissions two care homes and covid have taken their toll.

She's not eating but taking some fluids. In bed. Sometimes lucid.

Not seen her since the end of September. Not really spoken since early October. Deterioration has been immense since mid June when she was living alone.

Feeling overwhelmed and so so sad. Can anyone explain what end of life care will involve?

Many thanks

 

[Shedrech]

hi @Suze99
sorry to hear of your mum's condition

I hope you have support for you too

care will be focussed on helping your mum be settled, comfortable and pain free

this may give some info

Making decisions about end of life care

There will be important decisions to make as the person nears the end of life, including whether they should be resuscitated if they have a heart attack, and any religious practices they want observed. Advance care planning can help to ensure that a person's wishes are known and respected.

www.alzheimers.org.uk

and this

Providing Care and Comfort at the End of Life

Read about how to provide physical, emotional, and spiritual comfort to relieve suffering when caring for a loved one who is dying.

www.nia.nih.gov

 

[Suze99]

I was allowed a visit today as my mum is now deemed end of life. She didn't look in any pain. Grasped my hands. Looking like she wanted to speak but couldn't. Obviously lost a lot of weight. Home called district nurse this afternoon who advised to stop food and water due to fear of choking. Feeling heartbroken. Such a sharp decline since mid June. At least I've had the chance to say goodbye. Thinking of everyone in a similar situation.

 

[Cat27]

I’m glad you had your visit @Suze99. I wish you strength for the next bit.

 

[Suze99]

Thank you. Mum deteriorated very quickly and passed away this morning peacefully. I'm in bits but trying to think of the happier times.

 

[canary]

Im so sorry for your loss
((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))

 

[lemonbalm]

I'm sorry @Suze99 Be kind to yourself.

 

[Palerider]

I'm sorry for your loss, she is at peace now ?

 

[Wildflowerlady]

Am very sorry for your loss ?

 

[Woo2]

Sending my condolences on your loss . Take care of yourself . ❤️

 

[Bunpoots]

I’m glad you got to visit your mum @Suze99 . So sorry for your loss.

 

[annielou]

So sorry for your loss, i’m glad you got to visit your mum?

 

[Sarasa]

Sorry for your loss @Suze99, but glad you were able to visit her.

 

[jaymor]

Sorry for your loss @Suze99, wonderful that you managed to see your Mum. Wishing you much strength as you move forward.

 

[May30]

Thinking of you

 

[Suze99]

Thank you all for your kind replies x