Blimey, I felt me ole hackles rising when I saw your first para, Lynne!
But probably because I came from a broken home and was raised by Mum, I have always felt a very close affinity to women, with great regard for [most of] them. So I'll rest me pulse a bit.
In the days when I used to employ people to work in my team, doing analytical work on huge volumes of data, I would generally find that it was the women I would choose, they were simply better than the blokes I saw. Also, when I'd work on through lunchtime to finish something, it was the women who also stayed, and we waited for the blokes to come back from the pub.....
Perhaps I've been unfortunate in Jan's family to have a bunch of women who have just been unable, for whatever reason, to empathise with Jan's condition, except to spout meaningless words, and never visit her.
I've had some great male friends though, who have visited and helped her and me. But in truth, there have also been a number of close female friends who have done so.
When it comes down to it, I have too small a knowledge of either men or women in caring situations. The old analytical background comes to the fore again - I need sufficient validated data to go on. In Jan's home, there are as many men visiting as women; how they were when the relative was at home, I can't know.
So I take people as they come.
It's good to discuss these things!
But probably because I came from a broken home and was raised by Mum, I have always felt a very close affinity to women, with great regard for [most of] them. So I'll rest me pulse a bit.
In the days when I used to employ people to work in my team, doing analytical work on huge volumes of data, I would generally find that it was the women I would choose, they were simply better than the blokes I saw. Also, when I'd work on through lunchtime to finish something, it was the women who also stayed, and we waited for the blokes to come back from the pub.....
Perhaps I've been unfortunate in Jan's family to have a bunch of women who have just been unable, for whatever reason, to empathise with Jan's condition, except to spout meaningless words, and never visit her.
I've had some great male friends though, who have visited and helped her and me. But in truth, there have also been a number of close female friends who have done so.
When it comes down to it, I have too small a knowledge of either men or women in caring situations. The old analytical background comes to the fore again - I need sufficient validated data to go on. In Jan's home, there are as many men visiting as women; how they were when the relative was at home, I can't know.
So I take people as they come.
It's good to discuss these things!