My mum is absolutely raving, yelling at the top of her voice and going mad. She has been at this for a few days and the hosp has decided she is magically cured of infection (she will not keep an IV line in so is a real pain for staff).
They are getting ready to discharge her home to me and I do not accept my mother is medically stable yet. She has never yelled her head off for hours on end before and they will give her absolutely nothing to sedate her because of her chest condition. So am I supposed to watch her like this night and day? No nursing home (not a reputable one anyway) would take her like this and there is no way on this earth anyone could manage the way she is.
What happens if I just don't accept her home? Would they find somewhere horrible for her or would they have to press on with medical treatment? Surely this isn't right? Her eyes are completely yellow and she is sweating buckets.
Once I accept her home they will all do what they did before and turn their backs on me. I will probably end up going insane.
Oh how i feel for you, but remember if you do not have the care and support in place at home they can not discharge! How you both need a big cuddle and you some sleep - i can feel it. Ask for a second opinion that will stall things if that is what you want. Will send a PM now.
Where are your social worker and you CPN?
These are the people supposed to back you up at these times.
Get hold of them fast, and refuse to accept mum at home in the condition that she is in.
Hope this helps
Dear Magic, just goes to show that you know her best doesn't it. For all their training, you had to point it out. Stick to your guns, don't be bullied, hope the morning brings better things, love She. XX