Hi All,
I have been a user of TP for about 3 months now, but regret have not had a chance to log on properly for a number of weeks. Our story is that my mother in law was diagnosed with Az in November of last year, and was cared for primarily by my father in law, who was suffering from Prostrate cancer. A month ago, he was rushed into hospital so we have been sharing caring with mum, with her 2nd son. It's been tough. Sadly, my father in law passed away earlier this week, with his final words being Is Mum Ok?
We have had a wealth of support from the Notts Alzheimers Society, but are still at a loss where to go from here. The funeral is on Tuesday, and Mum in her moments of lucidity knows what is going on. She was aware that he was very ill, and was certainly shocked when we had to sit her down on Monday morning and tell her that Dad had passed away. How do we get her through the funeral? It would almost be a blessing if she hadn't had a "suitable reaction". Perhaps that would have been easier.
We are struggling to find a suitable network of carers - way too soon to have a live in carer move in (something that we had promised Dad we would do) - FYI, we live a way away, as does son No 2 and whilst we are more than happy to do what we can, we see a great struggle ahead. Currently, she is (in our humble opinion), not ill enough for residential care. Dad's definate wish was that she stay at home as long as she is happy and safe, and we do appreciate that our decision for her to do exactly that, may well have to be re-assessed as time goes by.
even so - any advice would be appreciated and gratefully received.
Many Thanks,
SkyHigh
I have been a user of TP for about 3 months now, but regret have not had a chance to log on properly for a number of weeks. Our story is that my mother in law was diagnosed with Az in November of last year, and was cared for primarily by my father in law, who was suffering from Prostrate cancer. A month ago, he was rushed into hospital so we have been sharing caring with mum, with her 2nd son. It's been tough. Sadly, my father in law passed away earlier this week, with his final words being Is Mum Ok?
We have had a wealth of support from the Notts Alzheimers Society, but are still at a loss where to go from here. The funeral is on Tuesday, and Mum in her moments of lucidity knows what is going on. She was aware that he was very ill, and was certainly shocked when we had to sit her down on Monday morning and tell her that Dad had passed away. How do we get her through the funeral? It would almost be a blessing if she hadn't had a "suitable reaction". Perhaps that would have been easier.
We are struggling to find a suitable network of carers - way too soon to have a live in carer move in (something that we had promised Dad we would do) - FYI, we live a way away, as does son No 2 and whilst we are more than happy to do what we can, we see a great struggle ahead. Currently, she is (in our humble opinion), not ill enough for residential care. Dad's definate wish was that she stay at home as long as she is happy and safe, and we do appreciate that our decision for her to do exactly that, may well have to be re-assessed as time goes by.
even so - any advice would be appreciated and gratefully received.
Many Thanks,
SkyHigh