Hi All
My mums Altzheimers has got progressively worse. She is unable to recognise items ie. food she has on her plate or otherwise, drinks, she poured a glass of Cranberry Cordial for White (non alcoholic) wine. My sis picked her up for lunch & said her house was filthy, when suggested she get someone in to clean for her she flipped saying "my house isn't dirty, I hoover it every day", clearly she doesn't. She no longer baths/showers. How on earth do we get the obvious help she needs with keeping the house clean & the personal care she needs without her throwing a wobberly every time we suggest it. She used to be such a glamerous woman, immaculately dressed, nails painted, not a hair out of place, now she looks like shes been dragged through a hedge backwards wearing the same clothes every day bless. Its useless reminding her to brush her hair, bath/shower etc as soon as the phone goes down shes forgotten what Ive said to her. She won't bath/shower at my house either. she gets very agitated if we mention any of the above. God knows what will happen if she needs to go into a home to be cared for, I think she may never forgive me nor speak to me again. Shopping each week now is also becoming a problem. She sat in my car whilst I quickly wizzed round the shops in my wheelchair, she just wasn't strong enough to make it round the shops with me. Mum seems to have lost the plot in so many ways yet she is totally compus mentus in others. When challenged about something she has a totally reasonable answer for why she did this or that. I don't think it will be long before we have to get her some sort of help at home
but how on earth do I tell her?
Lyn
My mums Altzheimers has got progressively worse. She is unable to recognise items ie. food she has on her plate or otherwise, drinks, she poured a glass of Cranberry Cordial for White (non alcoholic) wine. My sis picked her up for lunch & said her house was filthy, when suggested she get someone in to clean for her she flipped saying "my house isn't dirty, I hoover it every day", clearly she doesn't. She no longer baths/showers. How on earth do we get the obvious help she needs with keeping the house clean & the personal care she needs without her throwing a wobberly every time we suggest it. She used to be such a glamerous woman, immaculately dressed, nails painted, not a hair out of place, now she looks like shes been dragged through a hedge backwards wearing the same clothes every day bless. Its useless reminding her to brush her hair, bath/shower etc as soon as the phone goes down shes forgotten what Ive said to her. She won't bath/shower at my house either. she gets very agitated if we mention any of the above. God knows what will happen if she needs to go into a home to be cared for, I think she may never forgive me nor speak to me again. Shopping each week now is also becoming a problem. She sat in my car whilst I quickly wizzed round the shops in my wheelchair, she just wasn't strong enough to make it round the shops with me. Mum seems to have lost the plot in so many ways yet she is totally compus mentus in others. When challenged about something she has a totally reasonable answer for why she did this or that. I don't think it will be long before we have to get her some sort of help at home
but how on earth do I tell her?
Lyn