Hi, my mother has Alzheimer's. I recently started working part-time instead of full-time to spend more time with her, and Social Services go in for half an hour morning and night on the days I can't be with her. She can remember who I am less and less and is sure she is not in her own home. Whenever I am there she asks me to take her to her own home. She has lived in her home for over 30 years and I find this heartbreaking. She has now asked me about six times since Christmas to move in with her. I honestly don't know what to do. ~My common sense says not to move in (my job helps me stay sane and I would have to give it up because it would be too far to travel; also I need to sleep at least a couple of nights a week and my mother wanders around the house; she also just roots through things day and night - including my things - and i would have absolutely no privacy or time to myself) but my heart says to be with her. However, her disease is progressing and I worry about what will happen if she goes into a home; her house will need to be sold and I will end up homeless. We live in different local authorities and I have applied for housing in her authority but am not finding them open to this and social services say they don't have any influence in this. I feel that living a short distance away would be a good compromise. How on earth do people whose partners have Alzheimer's cope? Please can anyone give me any tips? And why are carers like myself given no guidelines or help by the local authorities, social services or the like? I feel I am dancing in the dark. Also, when someone sets fire to three electric kettles in a row (we are now onto using a kettle that goes on the gas and a couple of large vacuum flasks) is the social workers answer just getting an isolater fitted to the cooker? I am all for tagging if it would keep her safe, but an isolater fitted to the gas cooker will not stop her putting tea bags and water in her toaster, which she has done. Any suggestions from those more experienced than me?