I get where Toddleo is coming from.
I (and Dad with MCI) are at the stage where we need to look at Respite Care if not permanent care for Mum. My sister says Mum is not going into Respite, and not going in to care, and that she is no where at that level.
I'm sure my sister thinks caring for Mum is simply taking over her medication morning and night, and holding her hand when going out and crossing the street, and helping her when grocery shopping.
I have looked at writing down a list of all that I do, so that she is aware that it is so much more, and that includes my husbnad and 2 teens having to watch that Mum doesn't go wandering when I'm not here or at work. ( Mum & Dad live behind us)
Apart from Mums Alzheimers, I didn't realise how overwhelming it was organising another household, plus bills and maintenance, and health appointments for Mum & for Dad.
If not mentioned above, another thing I would add if applicable is if there is some kind of family gathering or outing.
A few weeks back we had a family reunion. It was up to me, to make sure Mum had a new outfit, her nails were cut, she had her hair done, hair removal cream for her moustache ( mum says she hates looking like a man
) had had a bath, put some smellies on, her earrings in, an incontinence pad on, the right shoes on, everything packed in her handbag etc .... everyone commented on how well she looked and how lovely she looked.... which in turn seems to signify to them that there is nothing wrong with Mum