What am I going to do ? I have been offered respite, but........ I can't let Dee go into respite as she was upset by being shown the rooms in the care ward at the clinic - which were excellent to me. I'm happy with the help I'm getting, and about to get, from the Az Soc, Cross roads, agency personal care etc. So having made the decision that Dee is not going into respite, what do I tell my lovely neighbours who urge me to have respite. How do I fend them off and still keep their friendship . Cliff ......Help !! PS. I'm scared of losing Dee's loving friendship which still shines through this dreadful period.