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What a night... Dementia 1 carer 0

Discussion in 'I care for a person with dementia' started by exhausted 2015, Dec 19, 2015.

  1. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

    Jul 5, 2015
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    Well I got defeated last night by this awful disease come dawn I was thoroughly worn down.. Dad did not sleep a wink last night he spent all night wandering from his bedroom to the bathroom and was frequently going to open his bowels which he then smeared all over the bathroom each time that he went... Three or four changes of towels over night, pajamas. Bath mats.. Probably used a full bottle of bleach plus disinfectant dad only manages a couple of hours a night but last night we didn't even get that.. Got 6 more weeks to go before respite.. Moan over now going to have a cuppa.. Exhausted 2015 xx merry Christmas all xx
     
  2. Shedrech

    Shedrech Volunteer Moderator

    Dec 15, 2012
    8,088
    Yorkshire
    My gosh exhausted 2015 ! :(
    Surely a cuppa AND a choccie bickie at least
    I'm sitting here feeling sorry for myself as I have a sore throat and cough so didn't sleep well - nothing at all compared to your night
    I so hope you all get some rest tonight :)
     
  3. Stresshead

    Stresshead Registered User

    Sep 13, 2014
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    No wonder you go by the name of 'Exhausted' !! I really feel for you. Can't the doctor give you anything to help your poor dad sleep and let you get some rest?

    Stuff the cuppa I'd be heading for the Brandy by now.!!
     
  4. Ozzy71

    Ozzy71 Registered User

    Nov 23, 2015
    26
    Really sorry- that's tough. Hope you (and your dad) get some rest tonight. X
     
  5. marionq

    marionq Registered User

    Apr 24, 2013
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    #5 marionq, Dec 19, 2015
    Last edited: Dec 19, 2015
    I think you need to demand appropriate medication. You cannot continue without sleep and where will your Dad be then? Send a letter to the GP ahead of a visit so you can lay it out in detail.
     
  6. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

    Jul 5, 2015
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    Hi Shedrech, hope you are feeling better soon xx
     
  7. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

    Jul 5, 2015
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    Would love a glass of wine now but it's too early I would fall asleep before I could get dad to bed.. Nice thought tho thank you xx
     
  8. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

    Jul 5, 2015
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    Hi marionq. unfortunately we aren't having much luck with sleeping meds at the moment.. Zimovane didn't work he's now been on metatonin for a month with no improvement yet.. But thanks anyway xx
     
  9. Kazza-72

    Kazza-72 Registered User

    Dec 15, 2015
    61
    Chiswick, London
    Bless you exhausted....I totally feel your pain. Am having similar issues with mum. A mask with a few drops of olbas oil works a treat to mask the smell while you're cleaning up


    Sent from my iPhone using Talking Point
     
  10. jojop

    jojop Registered User

    Nov 9, 2013
    66
    SE London
    Hi exhausted, can totally relate to how you are feeling. I've gone through same with mum this week, twice already.
    She has melatonin which sometimes works and sometimes doesn't - not helpful. Can only put her latest episode down to UTI.
    It's so tough trying to function and care for someone when had no sleep, thinking of you and hope you have a better night tonight, x
     
  11. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

    Jul 5, 2015
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    Thank you jojo and kazza for your support on my knees tonight I'm that tired and got another long night ahead xx
     
  12. CollegeGirl

    CollegeGirl Registered User

    Jan 19, 2011
    9,525
    North East England
    Exhausted, I don't know what to say. I simply can't imagine how you manage to go on.

    Sending heartfelt wishes that your dad sleeps tonight so that you can get some rest x
     
  13. fizzie

    fizzie Registered User

    Jul 20, 2011
    2,731
    i'm sending the sleep fairies for your Dad tonight - you don't need them so they can concentrate completely on him xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
     
  14. nae sporran

    nae sporran Volunteer Host

    Oct 29, 2014
    6,096
    Male
    Bristol
    Nae wonder you are exhausted. OH has her rough nights with occasional incontinence, which can be pretty tiring, but you have my sympathy for much more serious troubles. She leaves a bit of a mess in the toilet when constipation breaks, but while Dettol laundry liquid saves on bleach for washing urine stained trousers I am sorry I can't offer much help for bowels.
     
  15. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

    Jul 5, 2015
    624
    Female
    stoke on trent
    Thanks all again for your support, I really don't know what I would do without this site as I'm not able to get out much at all xx and YES PLEASE SEND ME LOTS OF SLEEP FAIRIES FOR TONIGHT xx
     
  16. smartieplum

    smartieplum Registered User

    Jul 29, 2014
    259
    Ask GP for quetiapine for dad
     
  17. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

    Jul 5, 2015
    624
    Female
    stoke on trent
    Thank you... Do they work xx
     
  18. Louby65

    Louby65 Registered User

    Mar 26, 2014
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    Scotland
    Aww exhausted 2015 , I so wish your dad has a restful sleep so you can sleep too. I know only too well what it's like . Fingers crossed . Best wishes . Lou
     
  19. Dimelza

    Dimelza Registered User

    May 28, 2013
    130
    Oh my goodness you poor thing. I hope you're both sleeping soundly...
    Zolpidem worked for my dad although I doubt he needed it, the first care home had it prescribed.
     
  20. LYN T

    LYN T Registered User

    Aug 30, 2012
    6,962
    Brixham Devon
    I hope that you managed to get a better night's sleep last night. Sleep deprivation is so, so hard to deal with.

    I agree with the others; I really think the GP needs to prescribe something to help.

    Love

    Lyn T
     

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