I thought I hadn't posted here for 3 years but it is only 18 months. It is lovely to see many of the same names but it does highlight what a long road this is for us all. My mother is 90 yrs old, in a nursing home in later stages of vascular dementia. I thought she was on a plateau, but having read an old post of mine it highlights how much she has gone down hill. Eighteen months ago I held "conversations" with her about the weather, about food etc. one sided conversations but at least something was going on. Now there is no conversation at all. She looks at me oddly when I say "Isn't the sun lovely". I drive for over an hour to visit her and within 30 seconds she says " You don't mind if I have a doze do you" and she has gone. She has absolutely no short term memory and no long term memory. It shocks me as I write this - she really is an empty vessel. She seems physically quite tough. How long can this go on for? She has had vascular dementia for about 7 years about 4.5 years in a nursing home. We tried to look after her at home but it was impossible. Now, with good care in a nursing home she looks like she is going on and on and on...... This post is by way of saying hello to all my old friends who are still around and to express my feelings about this long, long road!!