Short re cap - Last Monday after mum had chest pains through anxiety after dad's behaviour over the weekend , I spoke to social services who, brushed me off saying dads respite could not be brought forward and he didn't meet criteria.. Mum broke down and doctors Monday -WED New SW visited..
Where we are now
Friday afternoon SW called my home - I was not available as on school run, she relunctantly spoke to my hubby. From not meeting criteria on the Monday it has now gone to High Risk very concerned even to the point my daughter can not go round unsupervised. Picture this scene, it would be hilarious if we were not all stress monkeys operating on adrenaline and auto pilot.
I received a call from hubby at 3.25pm having missed all his previous ones as I was driving
" come home now!" he said we needed to go to another town about 5 miles away to view a home
I proceeded home to see my 6 ft 4 tall hubby running down a busy A road carriage way trying to head me off.. In his hand he was flapping an A4 sheet of paper.
My 6 yr old thought this was a great adventure and a mission
He jumps into the truck, exhausted and wheezing and instructs me to where I needed to go.
I had 20 minutes to get to a home 10 mins away in school traffic and Friday rush hour started early.
We got to the home accepted it, they are doing ( hopefully) a risk assessment today and dad has a 2 weeks short stay with option for 3rd week - non self funding
Administrator there said they only have private beds though long term. I am hoping that the risk assessment which was done in the home's sister home in our town will be sufficient and cut that part out. the care home in which he has had respite before has D & V at the moment so can not take him
I had to get him calmer downers from the doctor on Wednesday as advised by the SW.
Thus far, I cant fault her ( The SW) commitment to this case - I guess dad was far worse that we thought or we have coped with so far.
I had dad yesterday over for dinner to give mum a break and to make him think he was going home - as currently every night I get a call from their house where he asks me to take him home...
Where we are now
Friday afternoon SW called my home - I was not available as on school run, she relunctantly spoke to my hubby. From not meeting criteria on the Monday it has now gone to High Risk very concerned even to the point my daughter can not go round unsupervised. Picture this scene, it would be hilarious if we were not all stress monkeys operating on adrenaline and auto pilot.
I received a call from hubby at 3.25pm having missed all his previous ones as I was driving
" come home now!" he said we needed to go to another town about 5 miles away to view a home
I proceeded home to see my 6 ft 4 tall hubby running down a busy A road carriage way trying to head me off.. In his hand he was flapping an A4 sheet of paper.
My 6 yr old thought this was a great adventure and a mission
He jumps into the truck, exhausted and wheezing and instructs me to where I needed to go.
I had 20 minutes to get to a home 10 mins away in school traffic and Friday rush hour started early.
We got to the home accepted it, they are doing ( hopefully) a risk assessment today and dad has a 2 weeks short stay with option for 3rd week - non self funding
Administrator there said they only have private beds though long term. I am hoping that the risk assessment which was done in the home's sister home in our town will be sufficient and cut that part out. the care home in which he has had respite before has D & V at the moment so can not take him
I had to get him calmer downers from the doctor on Wednesday as advised by the SW.
Thus far, I cant fault her ( The SW) commitment to this case - I guess dad was far worse that we thought or we have coped with so far.
I had dad yesterday over for dinner to give mum a break and to make him think he was going home - as currently every night I get a call from their house where he asks me to take him home...