Due to mum's constant wandering and being picked up at all hours and in all weathers by kindly people, we have come to the decision to find a home. I have been very logical about this unlike my sisters who have been resisting. My brothers are logical too.
My sisters have led the search and have found a lovely EMI unit VERY close to home (walking distance for all 5 of us). We have all visited it and I was the last to go last night, Despite being very logical about it (if we don't put her in full time care, we will find her under a bus or she will be attacked), it was a real shocker Not because of the state of the place or anything but the realisation hit me that my mum wouldn't be going home. I thought I had accepted it all.. the AD even, but it came rushing towards me like a train last night.
Everyone has been on holiday this week.... my sister who is main carer by default (she's at home child minding for me), our social worker and the home manager (who's mum is a friend of my mum ). This week has been so difficult as we've tried to piece the care together between us. She's been with me the last 2 days - all day which is not ideal when you've got a demanding 7 and a 4 yr old to deal with too. I left her at 6 pm last night and she was picked up by my niece at 8pm on her usual route through town. we are pretty sure she is heading to our old house as she's always onthe same (very very busy) road. I'm sure the same will happen again tonight. So Monday a.m we are putting the wheels in motion.
We are arranging assessments from SS and the Home. Mum can afford the first 3 months so this should mean we can get her in very quickly. I feel sooooo guilty but I know this will pass. The tables have turned and my sisters who were resisting are now pursuading me! I'm all for putting her in, but I feel so sad about it. I think she will be sooooo unhappy there as she is suddenly aware in those situations and this led to her being temporarily excluded from the day centre as she was so distressed.
Thanks again for all your never ending support and for listening - again! I am a stuck record sometimes but it feels so much better to write it down.
Karen
My sisters have led the search and have found a lovely EMI unit VERY close to home (walking distance for all 5 of us). We have all visited it and I was the last to go last night, Despite being very logical about it (if we don't put her in full time care, we will find her under a bus or she will be attacked), it was a real shocker Not because of the state of the place or anything but the realisation hit me that my mum wouldn't be going home. I thought I had accepted it all.. the AD even, but it came rushing towards me like a train last night.
Everyone has been on holiday this week.... my sister who is main carer by default (she's at home child minding for me), our social worker and the home manager (who's mum is a friend of my mum ). This week has been so difficult as we've tried to piece the care together between us. She's been with me the last 2 days - all day which is not ideal when you've got a demanding 7 and a 4 yr old to deal with too. I left her at 6 pm last night and she was picked up by my niece at 8pm on her usual route through town. we are pretty sure she is heading to our old house as she's always onthe same (very very busy) road. I'm sure the same will happen again tonight. So Monday a.m we are putting the wheels in motion.
We are arranging assessments from SS and the Home. Mum can afford the first 3 months so this should mean we can get her in very quickly. I feel sooooo guilty but I know this will pass. The tables have turned and my sisters who were resisting are now pursuading me! I'm all for putting her in, but I feel so sad about it. I think she will be sooooo unhappy there as she is suddenly aware in those situations and this led to her being temporarily excluded from the day centre as she was so distressed.
Thanks again for all your never ending support and for listening - again! I am a stuck record sometimes but it feels so much better to write it down.
Karen