Hello my friends, I have not been on here for a long while now....Dad who is 90 has been plodding along quietly in his wonderful nursing home, and nothing eventful has been happening...until last week that is......He went downhill like a ton of bricks, infection again in his urine, ( he has a supa pubic catheter ) and he was admitted to hospital...always a worry...but after going in and telling them his history of his stay last year in their "Elderly care ward" ( he was abused by 5 nurses holding him down)..we got a lot of sympathy and very good care for him....antibiotics and fluids did the trick, and on my visit last tuesday he was smiling, waving and trying to blow raspberries at me, like my old Dad had come back....then the next day when my sister visited, nothing, slept all the time.....since returning to his nursing home he wont eat, and has not eaten for a week........he is frail, he only sips water or thickened juice, and he is permanantly in his bed....the weight loss is frightening...the doctor has been and said he has no infection, no temperature, he has just had enough...........our big worry is ...is he starving??? Is he hungry, or has that now all gone?????? Does he know what he is doing???? I am visiting him again today....I would like to think he knows what he is doing and choosing to "check out "in this way....but I would hate to think he is hungry and in some way can't tell us...it's a terrible situation...he would not want a feeding tube, he always said he wouldn't want that, and to be honest he is so frail and weak he probably wouldn't do well with the surgery............feel like we're entering into hell.