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Discussion in 'Welcome and how to use Dementia Talking Point' started by KatherineW, Jul 22, 2013.

  1. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,385
    Kent
    Hello @Dementia2017 Welcome to talking Point.

    Its not clear from your post is you are in the UK or USA.

    I hope you get the support you ned. Have a look at the different sub forums to decide which is the best for you to start your own Thread.
     
  2. Shedrech

    Shedrech Volunteer Moderator

    Dec 15, 2012
    7,935
    Yorkshire
    hello @Dementia2017
    welcome from me too
    there's lots of support here and quite a number of members in the US
    might you add your location/your dad's location (in general, don't be too specific) or just USA to your profile, then when you start a thread or respond in someone else's members can see where you are easily and the US folk can offer info specific to your/his locality
    best wishes
     
  3. Toodlepipfornow

    Toodlepipfornow Registered User

    Oct 27, 2017
    37
    Hello all,

    I've just joined and am happy to be here amongst people who will understand. :)

    Hope to see you all around and about the place.
     
  4. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    59,442
    Female
    Dundee
    Hi there @Toodlepipfornow and welcome to TP. I'm glad you have found the forum and am sure you'll find it very supportive.
     
  5. LozzaD

    LozzaD New member

    Oct 28, 2017
    1
    Hello everyone

    I’m completely new to this forum and I look forward to speaking to a number of you. My Dad was diagnosed with Alzeimers 4 weeks. His license has now been withdrawn by the DVLA and he’s devastated. Dads 70, young at heart and very fit for his age. Mum died 7 years ago and he’s on his own. He’s not the type of man to go to coffee mornings and meet others who have recently been diagnosed so I am at a loss
     
  6. Scottleatham

    Scottleatham New member

    Oct 29, 2017
    4

    Hi , my mum has yet to be diagnosed with dementia but she is way down the line of dementia, my dad is struggling to cope with the care of my mum , how did you get the full confirmation, my dad is still not accepting the illness? I’m looking for community help for them , thanks
     
  7. Louise7

    Louise7 Registered User

    Mar 25, 2016
    1,154
    Welcome to TP. In terms of community help, if your Mum & Dad have not yet been in contact with social services the first thing to do is contact your local authority adult care team to ask for an assessment of their care needs. This assessment will cover what support your parents need eg carers, day club etc. Depending on their financial situation the LA may fully or part fund any help required, or point them in the direction of the various services available if they are self funded.

    There are also benefits such as Attendance Allowance that your Mum may qualify for. To obtain a diagnosis for your Mum you will need to arrange a doctors appointment and ensure that the GP is made fully aware of how your Mum is behaving. This will then usually be followed by a referral to a memory clinic, and if a diagnosis is confirmed your Mum may also be prescribed medication, dependant on the type of dementia. If your Dad is struggling to cope now it's best to get some help in place for them sooner rather than later.
     
  8. Scottleatham

    Scottleatham New member

    Oct 29, 2017
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  9. Scottleatham

    Scottleatham New member

    Oct 29, 2017
    4
    Hi my mum already goes to a memory clinic but had had no diagnosis as far as I’m aware?? We are think about going down the social services route , very slow process with a dad with pride !! Thanks
     
  10. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    59,442
    Female
    Dundee
    Hi and welcome to Talking Point. I'm sorry to read about your mum. This must be a hard time for you and your dad.

    I'm glad you've found the forum and I'm sure you will get lots of help and support here. It's a great place to share concerns and thoughts, to ask questions - or to have a rant if you feel like it!

    You might want to consider starting your own thread when you're ready. Lots of people find this a good way to keep all of their posts and responses together. Just go to the I Care For a Person With Dementia Area of the forum and click on the 'Post New Thread' option in the blue box at the top right of the page.
     
  11. Amethyst59

    Amethyst59 Registered User

    Jul 3, 2017
    5,738
    Female
    Kent
    Hello, and welcome to TP. I am sure that you will get advice about first steps to take in supporting your dad, and there are resources to support you too. You might want to start your own ‘thread’ and then you will get more specific advice. My first thought is that even tho you say your dad won’t like ‘coffee mornings’, there still may be hope to get him out and socialising...which will be good for him, and put your mind at rest about him a bit. My husband wouldn’t touch a coffee morning with a barge pole...but is really enjoying meeting other men at a Cogs club (cognitive stimulation) and, to my even greater surprise enjoys singing for dementia! Both of these are run by Age UK in my area.
     
  12. Coffeepot63

    Coffeepot63 New member

    Oct 26, 2017
    3
    Female
    Preston, Lancs.
    Hi, my mum is 83, and was diagnosed with vascular dementia in August 2017. I have read a few posts on tp and hope to learn more to help my mum. I'm hoping to get some help with a telecare system in order to stop mum from going out at night, she's been going out every night for the last month as she no longer realises day and night, trying to keep her occupied during the day more now in the hope she will get tired enough to sleep a full night.
     
  13. Shedrech

    Shedrech Volunteer Moderator

    Dec 15, 2012
    7,935
    Yorkshire
    hello @Coffeepot63
    welcome to TP
    it's such a worry when someone begins to wander, and unfortunately it's not something that's easily stopped
    the carephone/telecare system will help by having sensors on the door and a link to the landline so that an operator can speak to your mum and warn you, but it can't physically stop her leaving
    you may be able to have one installed through her Local Authority Adult Services
    has there been an assessment of your mum's care needs, as you might also ask about some time at a day care centre to give her some social interaction which may help to make her tired
    with my dad, I found that tiredness wasn't really a factor, so much as the urge to walk and being disorientated in his own home so he turned left (to the front door) instead of right (to the bathroom)
    for more responses to anything that's on your mind, do start your own thread
     
  14. gem86gem

    gem86gem New member

    Nov 1, 2017
    1
    Hi all,

    I have joined talking point to hopefully find some advice on eating and sleeping habits for my dad.

    He was diagnosed last year after pushing the doctors to do something!

    Looking forward to speaking with you.
     
  15. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    59,442
    Female
    Dundee
    Hi @gem86gem - welcome to Talking Point.

    I'm sure you'll get lots of help and support here.
     
  16. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    59,442
    Female
    Dundee
    Hi @gem86gem - welcome to Talking Point.

    I'm sure you'll get lots of help and support here.
     
  17. Diana.lincoln

    Diana.lincoln New member

    Nov 2, 2017
    3
    Hi I have signed up today. My Mum has Alzheimers and I am an only child and live a long way from her.
    I have concerns that her friend is going beyond friendship and delving into her financial affairs. I have POA.
     
  18. Shedrech

    Shedrech Volunteer Moderator

    Dec 15, 2012
    7,935
    Yorkshire
    hello Diana and welcome to TP
    it isn't easy supporting someone from such a distance
    and a shame the friend can't restrict their help to being social
    does the friend know you have POA and that therefore anyone else getting involved in your mum's finances has no legal authority and may be at risk of putting themselves on the wrong side of the law ?
    I see you have started a thread on this topic, so hope others will respond there
    best wishes
     
  19. CharlieH

    CharlieH New member

    Nov 3, 2017
    4
    Hi, I've just joined TP and, after visiting the forums, I'm sure that it will be helpful. I'm 71 and my wife, who suffers from Alzheimer's, is 74.
    Hello to you all.
     
  20. Skylark33

    Skylark33 Registered User

    Aug 26, 2016
    11
    Gosport, Hampshire UK
    Hello CharlieH, I'm new too, but I have Alz and my partner Annie is my carer. I may say that having a carer sometimes makes me feel like a pet dog, but then I think how lucky Iam. Thank the Lord for carers, I say! Martin
     
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