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Shedrech

Volunteer Moderator
Dec 15, 2012
8,491
Yorkshire
hello @Dementia2017
welcome from me too
there's lots of support here and quite a number of members in the US
might you add your location/your dad's location (in general, don't be too specific) or just USA to your profile, then when you start a thread or respond in someone else's members can see where you are easily and the US folk can offer info specific to your/his locality
best wishes
 

Toodlepipfornow

Registered User
Oct 27, 2017
37
Hello all,

I've just joined and am happy to be here amongst people who will understand. :)

Hope to see you all around and about the place.
 

LozzaD

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Oct 28, 2017
1
Hello everyone

I’m completely new to this forum and I look forward to speaking to a number of you. My Dad was diagnosed with Alzeimers 4 weeks. His license has now been withdrawn by the DVLA and he’s devastated. Dads 70, young at heart and very fit for his age. Mum died 7 years ago and he’s on his own. He’s not the type of man to go to coffee mornings and meet others who have recently been diagnosed so I am at a loss
 

Scottleatham

New member
Oct 29, 2017
4
Hello everyone

I’m completely new to this forum and I look forward to speaking to a number of you. My Dad was diagnosed with Alzeimers 4 weeks. His license has now been withdrawn by the DVLA and he’s devastated. Dads 70, young at heart and very fit for his age. Mum died 7 years ago and he’s on his own. He’s not the type of man to go to coffee mornings and meet others who have recently been diagnosed so I am at a loss
Hello everyone

I’m completely new to this forum and I look forward to speaking to a number of you. My Dad was diagnosed with Alzeimers 4 weeks. His license has now been withdrawn by the DVLA and he’s devastated. Dads 70, young at heart and very fit for his age. Mum died 7 years ago and he’s on his own. He’s not the type of man to go to coffee mornings and meet others who have recently been diagnosed so I am at a loss

Hi , my mum has yet to be diagnosed with dementia but she is way down the line of dementia, my dad is struggling to cope with the care of my mum , how did you get the full confirmation, my dad is still not accepting the illness? I’m looking for community help for them , thanks
 

Louise7

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Mar 25, 2016
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Welcome to TP. In terms of community help, if your Mum & Dad have not yet been in contact with social services the first thing to do is contact your local authority adult care team to ask for an assessment of their care needs. This assessment will cover what support your parents need eg carers, day club etc. Depending on their financial situation the LA may fully or part fund any help required, or point them in the direction of the various services available if they are self funded.

There are also benefits such as Attendance Allowance that your Mum may qualify for. To obtain a diagnosis for your Mum you will need to arrange a doctors appointment and ensure that the GP is made fully aware of how your Mum is behaving. This will then usually be followed by a referral to a memory clinic, and if a diagnosis is confirmed your Mum may also be prescribed medication, dependant on the type of dementia. If your Dad is struggling to cope now it's best to get some help in place for them sooner rather than later.
 

Scottleatham

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Oct 29, 2017
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Welcome to TP. In terms of community help, if your Mum & Dad have not yet been in contact with social services the first thing to do is contact your local authority adult care team to ask for an assessment of their care needs. This assessment will cover what support your parents need eg carers, day club etc. Depending on their financial situation the LA may fully or part fund any help required, or point them in the direction of the various services available if they are self funded.

There are also benefits such as Attendance Allowance that your Mum may qualify for. To obtain a diagnosis for your Mum you will need to arrange a doctors appointment and ensure that the GP is made fully aware of how your Mum is behaving. This will then usually be followed by a referral to a memory clinic, and if a diagnosis is confirmed your Mum may also be prescribed medication, dependant on the type of dementia. If your Dad is struggling to cope now it's best to get some help in place for them sooner rather than later.
 

Scottleatham

New member
Oct 29, 2017
4
Hi my mum already goes to a memory clinic but had had no diagnosis as far as I’m aware?? We are think about going down the social services route , very slow process with a dad with pride !! Thanks
 

Izzy

Volunteer Moderator
Aug 31, 2003
60,487
Dundee
Hi my mum already goes to a memory clinic but had had no diagnosis as far as I’m aware?? We are think about going down the social services route , very slow process with a dad with pride !! Thanks
Hi and welcome to Talking Point. I'm sorry to read about your mum. This must be a hard time for you and your dad.

I'm glad you've found the forum and I'm sure you will get lots of help and support here. It's a great place to share concerns and thoughts, to ask questions - or to have a rant if you feel like it!

You might want to consider starting your own thread when you're ready. Lots of people find this a good way to keep all of their posts and responses together. Just go to the I Care For a Person With Dementia Area of the forum and click on the 'Post New Thread' option in the blue box at the top right of the page.
 

Amethyst59

Registered User
Jul 3, 2017
5,749
Kent
Hello everyone

I’m completely new to this forum and I look forward to speaking to a number of you. My Dad was diagnosed with Alzeimers 4 weeks. His license has now been withdrawn by the DVLA and he’s devastated. Dads 70, young at heart and very fit for his age. Mum died 7 years ago and he’s on his own. He’s not the type of man to go to coffee mornings and meet others who have recently been diagnosed so I am at a loss
Hello, and welcome to TP. I am sure that you will get advice about first steps to take in supporting your dad, and there are resources to support you too. You might want to start your own ‘thread’ and then you will get more specific advice. My first thought is that even tho you say your dad won’t like ‘coffee mornings’, there still may be hope to get him out and socialising...which will be good for him, and put your mind at rest about him a bit. My husband wouldn’t touch a coffee morning with a barge pole...but is really enjoying meeting other men at a Cogs club (cognitive stimulation) and, to my even greater surprise enjoys singing for dementia! Both of these are run by Age UK in my area.
 

Coffeepot63

New member
Oct 26, 2017
3
Preston, Lancs.
Hi, my mum is 83, and was diagnosed with vascular dementia in August 2017. I have read a few posts on tp and hope to learn more to help my mum. I'm hoping to get some help with a telecare system in order to stop mum from going out at night, she's been going out every night for the last month as she no longer realises day and night, trying to keep her occupied during the day more now in the hope she will get tired enough to sleep a full night.
 

Shedrech

Volunteer Moderator
Dec 15, 2012
8,491
Yorkshire
hello @Coffeepot63
welcome to TP
it's such a worry when someone begins to wander, and unfortunately it's not something that's easily stopped
the carephone/telecare system will help by having sensors on the door and a link to the landline so that an operator can speak to your mum and warn you, but it can't physically stop her leaving
you may be able to have one installed through her Local Authority Adult Services
has there been an assessment of your mum's care needs, as you might also ask about some time at a day care centre to give her some social interaction which may help to make her tired
with my dad, I found that tiredness wasn't really a factor, so much as the urge to walk and being disorientated in his own home so he turned left (to the front door) instead of right (to the bathroom)
for more responses to anything that's on your mind, do start your own thread
 

gem86gem

New member
Nov 1, 2017
1
Hi all,

I have joined talking point to hopefully find some advice on eating and sleeping habits for my dad.

He was diagnosed last year after pushing the doctors to do something!

Looking forward to speaking with you.
 

Diana.lincoln

New member
Nov 2, 2017
3
Hi I have signed up today. My Mum has Alzheimers and I am an only child and live a long way from her.
I have concerns that her friend is going beyond friendship and delving into her financial affairs. I have POA.
 

Shedrech

Volunteer Moderator
Dec 15, 2012
8,491
Yorkshire
hello Diana and welcome to TP
it isn't easy supporting someone from such a distance
and a shame the friend can't restrict their help to being social
does the friend know you have POA and that therefore anyone else getting involved in your mum's finances has no legal authority and may be at risk of putting themselves on the wrong side of the law ?
I see you have started a thread on this topic, so hope others will respond there
best wishes
 

CharlieH

New member
Nov 3, 2017
7
Hi, I've just joined TP and, after visiting the forums, I'm sure that it will be helpful. I'm 71 and my wife, who suffers from Alzheimer's, is 74.
Hello to you all.
 

Skylark33

Registered User
Aug 26, 2016
11
75
Gosport, Hampshire UK
Hello CharlieH, I'm new too, but I have Alz and my partner Annie is my carer. I may say that having a carer sometimes makes me feel like a pet dog, but then I think how lucky Iam. Thank the Lord for carers, I say! Martin
 
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