Good Afternoon Delores,a warm welcome to Talking Point, wow 92 years young so pleased you have a supportive family,this can make such a difference, we are here for any questions,support,understanding or indeed a smile or virtual hug when needed.Hi everyone, I have just joined TP. I am currently caring for my mother who is going to be 92 this year, have been doing so for the past 3 years, I have a very supportive husband and 2 young men (my sons) who are sometimes, not often, called upon to mum-sit. Mum hasn't been officially diagnosed yet, she has her appointment in March to be assessed.
Welcome to TP enjoy your new vocation.I have recently become an Activities Co-ordinator, I have spent nearly a year as a Care Assistant and am now moving into an area which I absolutely love. However, it would be great to speak to others who are in the same position. I too am just over 60 like another lady who commented on here and it is a big career change for me. Although I don't think of this as a career, it is a vocation!
Hi Carmar, I saw your other post about caring for your mum and how you're feeling, but for some reason I was unable to reply to it. Just wanted to send you a virtual hug - I can't imagine how difficult it must be caring for your mum alone, especially as you are doing so without help from other family members. Although my dad was only diagnosed recently, I can relate to what you've said about your mum seeming a completely different person. Dementia is awful - I had never realised what an emotional turmoil it puts families through, and I'm not sure anyone can understand it without experiencing it. Your mum is so lucky to have you - remember that, and use it if you're ever feeling down. I have berated myself for all sorts of emotions over the past few months as we've watched dad decline both physically and mentally: sadness, anger, bitterness, guilt. There are no textbook rules for how we're supposed to be feeling. Try to give yourself what breaks you can, even if it's just getting outside in the garden whilst your mother sleeps. Sending you warmest wishes, and an ear to listen if you ever need one.Hi, I would like to introduce myself as I have just joined TP today. I hope that I am posting this in the right place!
I am caring for my 91 year old Mum who was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia 8 years ago. She progressed, virtually overnight, to mid-stage dementia 8 months ago, as the result of a chest infection. At that point, I gave up my job (and my home, which went with the job) to move in with her to care for her. I would welcome the chance to 'talk' to other carers.
Im newish to all this too. Mum was diagnosed with mild dementia in November but we've had spells when nothing has retained and her behaviour has been strange. Ive found it very difficult at times to know what she wants or needs or what i can do for the best. She's saying she wants to be with people constantly but is reluctant to go to clubs etc. She says shes bored but will not engage in any hobby or the like. She sounds so upset sometimes -i live 80 miles away & visit weekly as does my brother. I have carers in place but for physical needs not emotional needs. She says she wants to be in a home but what she seems to want is me there all the time. This will never be posdible. How does one deal with guilt? I guess im learning! We can only do our best!