Hi all. My mother has vascular dementia. Still at home with carers twice daily. Recently got to the stage whereby she doesnt want to be alone. She's crying and distressed. She's been staying at my sister's all week. I've been there all day every day this week whilst my sister at work, then shes been there all evening and overnight. We're both exhausted. We don't know where to turn. Mum was more like her normal self Thursday, she wanted to go home. She is home today, my brother is there with her. She is on a loop about him leaving her alone. ... he needs to go to work. We've all got jobs, children at school...mum is nrly 2 hrs journey from any of us. We visit regularly. . most days are covered by us and her friends. Both parents moved away from where we all grew up 14 years ago when they needed to downsize. Dad died 8 years ago. She's adamant she won't go into a home. She is a homeowner. She has a SW. They are going to do a review to maybe increase carers to 3 times a day, alarms on the doors to help avoid wandering. (She has a tendancy to lock herself out. Bought home by paramedics after presenting distressed in tesco at 11.00pm) we fear that this won't be enough. Mum is bloody independant and awkward. She shuns all offers of help because "She can do it" or "I've done that already" or "i always do that" Any advice on what we should do next Would be appreciated. Many thanks x