Hullo @cuteweenumber and welcome to talking point. Sorry your mother in law has had this diagnosis and you are struggling to cometo terms with it all. I have pasted a couple of links which hopefully will point you to support and information on dementia, but of course everyone with dementia is different so reading the threads will give you a better idea. Your husband may or may not be right on taking his mum on holiday, my OH and I went away for a weekend only a few months after diagnosis with no problems, though it would be hard to do so now. It's all a judgement call on how bad she is, but never say never. https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/about-dementia/types-dementia/what-dementia https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/find-support-near-you https://forum.alzheimers.org.uk/threads/compassionate-communication-with-the-memory-impaired.30801/ Good luck.