Hello @Cant do anything right ...I’m glad you found us! It’s so good to have someone to talk to, is t it? Lots of us know that feeling of isolation when you are in a house with someone with dementia...but feel you are alone. There’s obviously a lot going on in your parents house, but I have a few suggestions, and m sure other members will be along soon to give ideas too. When did your parents last have an assessment of needs? Because maybe Social Services could become more involved to give some support. Is there an Admiral Nurse in your area? They provide support for carers, but will be up to speed with what is available for your parents. There is just one thought I have...which may not be helpful, so ignore if you want! I’m ust wondering if your parents life style is ‘good enough’. I used to work in childcare and we used the phrase ‘good enough parenting’. It might not be ideal, it might not be what we would do...but is it good enough? So I’m wondering, if you are looking in from the outside and seeing how it could be so much better...but there is an element of choice for your parents...and maybe they need to want the help? An up to date assessment of needs would give an objective opinion. Please,keep posting, keep checking, others will be along to advise too...and you can sort through and accept or reject as you please!